Loving parents can still abuse their kids. That's something y'all really need to learn to understand. Parents that seem to truly, deeply adore their kids CAN STILL ABUSE THEM. It's not just hateful parents that abuse.

My parents adore me. I'm adopted, & they'd do anything to keep me safe from the world. But they also abused me, & they still think that's impossible b/c they love me & people who love you can't abuse you.

To this day, my parents are still, when they're decent, some of the kindest people I know. I've seen my Mami almost get violent w/ other people that caused me harm. She still abused me though. They're not mutually exclusive.

My Papi almost got into a fist fight w/ a total stranger that bumped into me once. He also almost punched my husband for telling him to stop misgendering me. He abused me. I know, if I'm in danger, he'd protect me, but not from himself or from Mami.

If something in my life were to go horribly wrong, my parents would be there. They'd offered to pay medical bills. They've always said, you have a home w/ us. And all of that is true. B/c they love me. BUT THEY ALSO ABUSED ME & continue to emotionally fuck me up to this day.

People can love you AND ALSO ABUSE YOU. They are not mutually exclusive & we all need to start understanding that. Painting abusers as heartless monsters is not the entire story.

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