A concept I often think about is ‘invisilege’ - what are the invisible privileges someone may have, which you can’t see by looking at them. One of the biggest is a loving family. Longitudinal studies have backed up that it correlates more than social class.

Over the years people have made assumptions based on my gender, accent, my school. But I had so many invisileges: a v stable family, with stable jobs (bus driver is a working class job but it isn’t that risky!), who were v chatty & inclusive. It’s a shame that gets missed.

On the other hand, I see some v privileged people - & I’m in no doubt their characteristics give them that - but I think about the crap I know they carry, an unloved childhood maybe, or mental health issues, and I wonder how (or if) we should add that to life’s calculations.