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I am Looking for a Spouse that is...
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Most of us wanted to marry with someone pious or religious right? But When looking for a spouse you cannot expect them to have qualities you don't have. Such as :
1) If you don't have 5 prayers down - do that first.Forget finding someone to better yourself , use an alarm clock, use an app, use your friends and fix yourself. I'm sure you expect your future children to have a fundamental pillar of Islam down-
but you don't even have it down! 24 hours in a day, if you take 5 mins in each prayer (even though you shouldn't quicken it), it's still only 25 minutes. Allah gives you 24 hours, and you're too selfish and ungrateful to give back even half an hour? Yallah go pray
2) This is more for sisters who dream about their husbands having amazing recitation voices: when was the last time you picked up the Qur’ān and recited the words so the angels could hear you. Recited - not shyly, but loudly, feeling the words hit your heart? Haven’t? Start now!
3) "I don't want my wife to have any guy friends" okay cool, are you done hanging out with your coed groups too? & vice versa. But the thing is - are you really going to text "bye" to all your friends the opposite gender, the night before you wedding? Okay thats what I thought
4) "I'm going to start practicing (hijaab/qiyaam/Quran/etc) after I get married إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ - yeah? Says who? Is there some magic button the rest of the married couples missed out on? What if your significant other isn't okay with how you plan on practicing your deen-
don't you think that if you want to become practicing and have someone who wants a practicing spouse - they too want someone who is *already* practicing? Get it??
5) "I want someone who cooks" - guess what. "Both genders should know how to cook because neither feminism or sexism is going to help you when you're hungry." - at least some basic items.
6) And forr those of you who want that extra practicing person. Man, how awesome it would be to have someone who pray tahajjud and duha and fasts on Mondays and Thursdays and reads Qur’ān every single day. Well - be that person. where is your relationship with Allah?
Just because you may end up with someone who is on point with their nawafil - does not mean that it will for sure rub off on you and you'll get it.
And Since we're on the topic - their past is none of your business. Religiousness changes - people changed. None of you came out of the womb practicing your deen. Everyone has flaws. What you look at is the present. You can't look at things that Allah already forgave-
If you see someone whose pious now, why on earth would you expose a past sin? it means Allah took them in already. And if they're worthy of Allah's forgiveness - who are you to be judging?)
We have to all get back on track. Get back into full gear. Become this unstoppable force of nature. Go to the step you're afraid of taking. Fajr on time - yes. Tahajjud every single day - yes. Duha during the day - yes. A page of Quran every day - yes.
Just make a list and keep checking things off. You have no idea how far you can go. It is Allah who facilitates it for you.
At the end of the day, you face Allah alone. Your pile of deeds are not split between you and your spouse. It is your pile. Your grave. Your life. Your questioning.
Jannah is yours - Allah talks to you directly in the Qur’ān, to enter His garden. Just you.
Jannah is yours - Allah talks to you directly in the Qur’ān, to enter His garden. Just you.
Overall your deen is your deen. A spouse might improve it or they might not. Your relationship with Allah depends on you your prayers, your dhikr, your Qur’ān not just by getting a pious spouse.
So you wanted to get righteous spouse ? Be One! I pray that may Allah make it easy for you
