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I find the most difficult thing about being a schooled person is how it trained me to follow directions and wait for orders.
I struggle with starting and trusting my work is enough because of this.
I remind myself I don’t have to wait for permission or instructions to start.
I struggle with starting and trusting my work is enough because of this.
I remind myself I don’t have to wait for permission or instructions to start.
My unschooled kids don’t have this problem.
They start when they are ready and they don’t worry about if their initial pass sucks. They don’t wait for me to tell them when it’s time to learn this or that. They don’t care if the instructions are vague.
They inspire me.
They start when they are ready and they don’t worry about if their initial pass sucks. They don’t wait for me to tell them when it’s time to learn this or that. They don’t care if the instructions are vague.
They inspire me.
The problem is people pleasing. School trained me not to do what I think needs to be done, but to do what I think the teacher wants - to produce the “right” answer.
I’ve learned that there is so much to be learned from mistakes, and the unintended outcome is sometimes better.
I’ve learned that there is so much to be learned from mistakes, and the unintended outcome is sometimes better.
Although I know it’s okay to make mistakes, I was punished in school for making them so I am mistake averse.
Making mistakes feels horrible to me. Even thinking I will mess something up makes me anxious. This is from years of being graded and evaluated.
Making mistakes feels horrible to me. Even thinking I will mess something up makes me anxious. This is from years of being graded and evaluated.
Aging has helped me, actually. The older I get the less I care about being “right” or looking foolish.
Also, watching the kids just go for it has definitely lit a fire under me. I have a sense of urgency to do what I want and just see what happens. That’s what my kids do.
Also, watching the kids just go for it has definitely lit a fire under me. I have a sense of urgency to do what I want and just see what happens. That’s what my kids do.
I’m swiftly approaching the point where the fear of failure isn’t as scary as regret.
I know at the end of my life I won’t regret failing; I’ll regret never really giving it a go.
I know at the end of my life I won’t regret failing; I’ll regret never really giving it a go.
