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I really don’t like getting caught up in the discourse and fighting about if asexuality is real; that’s not what I’m here to do. But it does upset me when people who claim to be advocates and educators can’t even get the basics right and refuse to learn and grow.
Sometimes the most mature response is “I don’t know.” If you don’t know, or you don’t understand, that’s okay! Just say you don’t know. Let someone who does answer.
I also think it’s fair to point out that stuff like this isn’t just “ooh internet drama”; misinformation about the basics of asexuality & the ace spectrum online hurts people offline, too. People who see it walk away with it into their IRL lives. It matters.
Especially with us being online as much as we are these days. These discussions are happening on and offline, but we can’t pretend like the stuff said online doesn’t matter off here because this is a very real form of communication.
It’s not just internet drama. It’s watching who has a platform and how they use it,and online platforms are very real. It’s disingenuous to pretend they aren’t. And if you have a platform and someone says you did something harmful...maybe listen. Because it matters offline, too.
Id like to educate so that no one feels confusion like I did for so long. I don’t like the discourse; I know I’m real. But it is exhausting to constantly see aces invalidated by the rest of the queer community as if we’re off on our own little island, not walking with them.
