Hey - if you notice that a Black woman has drawn a hard line online with a white woman who is exhibiting harmful, racist behavior - showing up to be the gentle white woman who will explain the issue in a softer tone is often not as helpful as you think

Black women are often dismissed and gaslit as "angry" when they set firm boundaries. If you notice a white woman treating a Black woman's boundaries as an attack, while she thanks you for your "kind" explanation - SHE IS WEAPONIZING YOU AGAINST BLACK WOMEN.

If you want to be helpful, supporting the boundaries of Black women and making it clear that abusive and racist behavior is unacceptable is the way you do it, instead of reinforcing the expectation that white women should be gently handheld out of their racist behavior.