I may be in the minority here, but if someone interprets me as bitchy that is their fault. I will no longer change who I am to be palatable to the patriarchy. https://twitter.com/bethlinas/status/1353481540731285506

Being direct makes you bitchy
Offering recommendations makes you bitchy
I’ve sat in meetings where a man presented the exact same idea as me and he was insightful and I had a “tone” issue
The goal posts always change, so just be you and insist society catch up

It is weak men who typically view women with opinions as bitchy or the media who is looking for an angle (strident is the euphemism I see). Do men ever wonder about their tone? A lot less I’ll wager.

And women judging women is terrible. Remember when someone wrote a whole mean girls piece on me in Scientific American that boiled down to “I don’t like her tone?” Fuck that shit. Be unapologetically you and be appropriately confident and demand the world catch up.

The goal posts for bitch change all the time — that’s the point. I’m not changing who I am for that. Also, IMO anyone who “needs” you to moderate your tone so they can “hear” you isn’t really listening to your message.