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So @ScarlettPosner got me thinking, and guys? We need to talk about a husband respecting his wife’s “no.”
A thread:
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A thread:
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I know it’s an uncomfortable subject, but sex should be a beautiful, wonderful thing.
But it certainly can’t be when a wife’s participation in a sexual exchange centers a man’s pleasure.
Guys, she doesn’t owe you sex. That’s not how this works.
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But it certainly can’t be when a wife’s participation in a sexual exchange centers a man’s pleasure.
Guys, she doesn’t owe you sex. That’s not how this works.
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The heart of a servant, the one Jesus gives me in sanctification, doesn’t exit the building when things get steamy.
Demanding is not okay.
Guilt-tripping is not okay.
Weaponizing is not okay.
I must be willing to love her more than what I want in every circumstance.
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Demanding is not okay.
Guilt-tripping is not okay.
Weaponizing is not okay.
I must be willing to love her more than what I want in every circumstance.
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Marriage doesn’t erase the potential of rape. Non-consensual sex doesn’t become okay because y’all exchanged rings. In fact, you’d think the vows married couples make to each other would make the idea even more unthinkable.
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So. “No” means “no,” even in marriage because Jesus doesn’t condone self-centered manipulation, coercion, or domination in anything.
But “no” also means “no” beyond the sheets.
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But “no” also means “no” beyond the sheets.
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“No” means “no”
...when she says she doesn’t wanna go to that party.
...when she doesn’t wanna invite those guests.
...when she doesn’t wanna work at home.
...when she doesn’t wanna work outside the home.
...when she doesn’t want YOU to take that job either.
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...when she says she doesn’t wanna go to that party.
...when she doesn’t wanna invite those guests.
...when she doesn’t wanna work at home.
...when she doesn’t wanna work outside the home.
...when she doesn’t want YOU to take that job either.
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“No” means “no”
...when she doesn’t wanna be around your toxic family.
...when she doesn’t wanna be around hers.
...when she doesn’t wanna watch that show.
...when she doesn’t wanna listen to that song.
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...when she doesn’t wanna be around your toxic family.
...when she doesn’t wanna be around hers.
...when she doesn’t wanna watch that show.
...when she doesn’t wanna listen to that song.
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“No” means “no”
...when she doesn’t wanna talk about it.
...when she doesn’t wanna put off talking about it.
...when she doesn’t want you to go.
...when she doesn’t want you to stay.
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...when she doesn’t wanna talk about it.
...when she doesn’t wanna put off talking about it.
...when she doesn’t want you to go.
...when she doesn’t want you to stay.
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Am I advocating that men be dominated or that they enable abusive and controlling behavior?
Uh. No. But that’s a convenient pendulum swing past my point, which is this:
She is her own person, and that doesn’t change just because you’re married.
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Uh. No. But that’s a convenient pendulum swing past my point, which is this:
She is her own person, and that doesn’t change just because you’re married.
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If it isn’t voluntary, then it isn’t love.
Love appeals, but love never forces.
Love desires, most of all, real love in return.
And if it was coerced?
Then it’s not real.
And if you’re okay with that?
Then it was never love you wanted after all.
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Love appeals, but love never forces.
Love desires, most of all, real love in return.
And if it was coerced?
Then it’s not real.
And if you’re okay with that?
Then it was never love you wanted after all.
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