I have a 3/4 baked argument about what’s going on with these “a nation/family divided” stories. Maybe I should jot it down quickly.

Tl;dr is you were always going to have to choose between family and cult of marriage and whiteness. Always. These have been on a crash course for three generations. It sounds like it sucks and I’m sure it does. But this was always the price for having a soul.

Either the “how to be good white people” books don’t cover this OR people didn’t read them all the way through. I don’t know because I’ve not read any of them, to be honest. But yes, uh, breaking up with many of your white people is exactly the end game.

Again, not to diminish the discomfort of that but I have to believe you were deeply lonely — in the existential and psychological senses — in a death cult. You can be less lonely, in that you can have a you to know and others can now know you - after the breakup.

Admittedly, it would help if we would have a decent effing nation state to provide housing and health care because it’s all still bound up in death cult ties. But that’s a catch-22 that conservatives are right about: we want to destroy your family by giving you free stuff.

Well, as it turns out, I didn’t need to write it all out. Huh.