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#SexEdWontTeachYou How to sext someone properly. Don't worry though, Your Textual Boyfriend has you covered. Some quick tips to follow.
00. Have consent. Never just send someone an explicit text/picture unless they've clearly established that they are interested in that kind of connection with you. Do not cold message someone who doesn't know you. Shouldn't have to say all this but yet I do.
#SexEdWontTeachYou Sexting 101
01. Get your textual foreplay on. Build up a scene. Stoke the fire. Sexting is rarely a super quick thing. Just like in sex, you can't just skip to just the final act. Take your time setting the mood and progressing the story.
01. Get your textual foreplay on. Build up a scene. Stoke the fire. Sexting is rarely a super quick thing. Just like in sex, you can't just skip to just the final act. Take your time setting the mood and progressing the story.
02. Communication matters. Be direct and clear if you are just teasing while out running errands, if you're home alone, if you're going through a tunnel, etc. It's good to make your partner aware of what your situation is so they aren't hurt when you can't reply back right away.
#SexEdWontTeachYou Sexting 101
03. Text it out like a story. "If I was there right now..." Describe how you'd approach them. Where your hands would touch them. Where your lips would kiss them. What would they feel? What would they hear? How exactly would you undress them?
03. Text it out like a story. "If I was there right now..." Describe how you'd approach them. Where your hands would touch them. Where your lips would kiss them. What would they feel? What would they hear? How exactly would you undress them?
04. It's a back and forth. Sexual improv in a way. Remember to, "Yes and..." as they reply back and add to the story. If you're talking about coming up behind them and wanting to bend them over but they reply they'd turn and drop to their knees, roll with it.
#SexEdWontTeachYou Sexting 101
05. It's a fantasy. Play out new and enticing scenes. Don't feel you have to keep everything grounded in reality. Don't be silly, but don't be afraid to type out something you've always wanted to try but couldn't.
05. It's a fantasy. Play out new and enticing scenes. Don't feel you have to keep everything grounded in reality. Don't be silly, but don't be afraid to type out something you've always wanted to try but couldn't.
06. Is your partner less imaginative or a "mmm, then what?" replier? You may have to carry the story. Consider pausing to request something specific from them before continuing. "Send me a pic" or "tell me how you'd react to my touch" prompts help them be more involved.
#SexEdWontTeachYou Sexting 101
07. If you're sending pics, be mindful of your lighting and your angles. Don't just send a super close-up genital pic as most people want to see the person it's attached to more. Tease it out and build anticipation before just baring it all.
07. If you're sending pics, be mindful of your lighting and your angles. Don't just send a super close-up genital pic as most people want to see the person it's attached to more. Tease it out and build anticipation before just baring it all.
08. Do practice safe lewd etiquette to protect yourself. Only share pics with someone you trust. Consider using a platform that doesn't keep images. (sn*pchat) Crop your face out, be aware of your background, identifying tattoos or body markings. Be aware nudes can get leaked.
#SexEdWontTeachYou Sexting 101
09. Sex isn't all about the orgasm. Sexting doesn't always have to lead to climaxing. It can be foreplay to build anticipation for later. It can be focusing on their pleasure. It can be just a sexy way to connect with a partner.
09. Sex isn't all about the orgasm. Sexting doesn't always have to lead to climaxing. It can be foreplay to build anticipation for later. It can be focusing on their pleasure. It can be just a sexy way to connect with a partner.
10. Play with your words. Wordplay goes a long ways in exciting the mind. You don't have to be overly flowery with your writing, but clever phrasing can send tingles through their body. A dirty turn of phrase adds to the playfulness. Double meanings can be such fun.
I could definitely go on, but ten feels like a good number to stop at for today. There are definitely more advanced tips I could go into as far as pacing and word choice. Think I'll save those for another day. Maybe next week? Until then, stay sexy.
