thinking again about Contrapoints’ elegant articulation of one of the torture traps of fame: audiences demand both perfection and authenticity, which obviously cannot coexist
this is a significant part of why so many celebrities go mad, become skittish, suspicious & standoffish, or revert into something like an infantile state: the chaos is too much to manage. It’s an abusive relationship where your partner alternates between fawning and attacking you
if you’re careful about cultivating the right kind of audience, they don’t demand perfection- wew. - but if you’re a big enough
, you will be attacked for your imperfections by the broader scene. typically by 1% of people who overreact for reasons that have nothing to do with u

if you been following my journey for a few years know you’ll know/see that I have been trying to precisely calibrate what is the amount of abuse I am willing/able to tolerate in order to maximally achieve my goal of presenting a nourishing model of being to the kids who need it
I can see the smart/thoughtful people on the conveyor belt ahead of me going mad in real time. and real players leave warnings for those of us who are also on the path https://twitter.com/ladygaga/status/1187543926678228993
I often feel like there’s an intrinsic suicidality to the pursuit of fame. to pursue fame is to seek the annihilation of the self, knowingly or unknowingly. there are relatively healthy and unhealthy ways of doing this, but also our usual concepts of health don’t quite apply here
Explaining this further in plain text is tricky business, will make a video