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If I never again have to read a tweet/facebook post/comment assertingsome version of "if you're so pro-life how many kids have you adopted?" it will still be too soon honestly.
Adoption has NOTHING to do with abortion y'all.
And #adoptees are not props in the abortion debate
Adoption has NOTHING to do with abortion y'all.
And #adoptees are not props in the abortion debate
I have started literally bracing myself whenever reproductive health is in the news again, because like clockwork y'all can't seem to help yourselves by dragging adoption into it EVERY FREAKING TIME.
It's exhausting.
It's exhausting.
And white progressive Christians, I'm sorry but we're some of the WORST offenders on this actually. I'm so tired of seeing certain progressive social justice figures complimented for "living out TRUE pro-life values" specifically because they adopted children.
Do you understand what you are saying when you say that?
Like can you step back for a moment and hear how that sentiment reads to someone who IS adopted?
Like can you step back for a moment and hear how that sentiment reads to someone who IS adopted?
This goes DOUBLE for #disabled adoptees.
Do you understand what you are saying about US when you say that our parents are "models of what it really means to pro-life" simply by... feeding, clothing, and raising us? As opposed to WHAT exactly?
Do you understand what you are saying about US when you say that our parents are "models of what it really means to pro-life" simply by... feeding, clothing, and raising us? As opposed to WHAT exactly?
Like would you tell *me* that *I'm* a model of what it really means to be pro-life, because I havent abandoned my two biological children at the fire station? Because I feed and clothe them? Because I continue to house them and give them a family?
How is that ANY different?
How is that ANY different?
Stop suggesting that adoptees should be especially grateful they weren't aborted. NONE of us were aborted, that's why we're all here existing on Twitter right now. Adoptees werent somehow exceptionally abortable compared to anyone else. And we're tired of y'all suggesting we were
In summary:
Abortion is a *pregnancy* decision.
Adoption is a *parenting* decision.
They are NOT related.
Adopting kids has nothing to do with being pro-life or pro-choice.
Adoptees are not political props for your abortion debate.
So stop it already.
Abortion is a *pregnancy* decision.
Adoption is a *parenting* decision.
They are NOT related.
Adopting kids has nothing to do with being pro-life or pro-choice.
Adoptees are not political props for your abortion debate.
So stop it already.
I had to add this person's quote tweet because yes, this. 100% this. https://twitter.com/BethandCats/status/1352729741439213569?s=20
Wanted to add 1 more thing.
If you saw the tweets about my own kids & thought, "that's not a fair comparison though b/c you WANTED those kids?"
I'd ask you to question why it is you assume that adopted kids were less wanted than those parented by their family of origin?
If you saw the tweets about my own kids & thought, "that's not a fair comparison though b/c you WANTED those kids?"
I'd ask you to question why it is you assume that adopted kids were less wanted than those parented by their family of origin?
The overwhelming majority of adoptions worldwide are NOT situations where these children are "unwanted."
That's another inaccurate narrative pushed to promote the "heartwarming" saviorist narratives of adoption our culture loves.
That's another inaccurate narrative pushed to promote the "heartwarming" saviorist narratives of adoption our culture loves.
MOST adoptions happen in situations where parents are either *unable* to parent (not any distinct lack of willingness or desire to parent,) or where parents are victims of a system that applies justice inequitably to determine who's "fit" to parent.
Pushing narratives that reinforce the "unwanted kids" trope not only shields the adoption industry from desperately needed examination and reform, it directly harms adoptees and compounds the trauma we experience.
This alone should be reason to stop the adoption/abortion conflations.
If you REALLY care about #adoptees so much, then listen to us when we say that your "adoption = pro-life" assertions are directly harming us and compounding our trauma.
If you REALLY care about #adoptees so much, then listen to us when we say that your "adoption = pro-life" assertions are directly harming us and compounding our trauma.
