Women:

You’re at work, and a co-worker feels uncomfortable being with you. He never looks directly at you, even when speaking. He turns his chair so that he can’t see you at his desk.

Apparently it’s so that he won’t lust after you.

Do you feel: (a) honoured or (b) gross?

I’ve been arguing on Twitter for a while now that Every Man’s Battle whole approach to fighting lust hurts women. Telling men to “bounce their eyes” STILL sees women in primarily sexual terms. The cure for lust is not to avoid women but to SEE them as whole people, like Jesus did

However, our Christian resources tout “bouncing the eyes” as being honourable towards women. In Through a Man’s Eyes, Feldhahn & Gross portray a man turning his chair away from a co-worker as a sign of respect. Most women, I think would see it as extremely objectifying.

Our solution to lust must not be to continue to see women through lust’s eyes. If a man truly can’t be with a woman in a work situation without lusting, he should not leave the house. See women as whole people, not objects. Focus on that. We’d get further.