No two disabilities are the same. Not even if they’re the same disability. We all have different experiences and different coping mechanisms. There isn’t a hierarchy to disability. Acknowledging the differences doesn’t mean that someone is trying to erase experiences. (1/4

I get that people are defensive right now. I get that people are hurting right now. Those are all pretty fuckin’ valid emotions at this moment because no one has been perfect. (2/4

I was talking to a friend the other day about ableism and they told me that no one truly fully understands all the nuances of ableism. No one person is the arbitrator of ableism. But if someone says something is ableist to them and their experience, then take it as that. (3/4

If you don’t understand, ask why. Don’t just dismiss them and move on. That shows your allyship and advocacy is conditional to what you think is ableism- and that means you think you are the sole arbitrator of ableism in that moment. Don’t do that. Do better. Be better. (4/4