(I have the individual's permission to recount this)

A sub I chat with occassionally has just apologised completely out of the blue for not being a cashsub. Firstly, it's not something I'm particularly interested in, but that's beside the point..
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At what point did we reach a situation where someone feels the need to apologise for not being into a particular kink, fetish, aesthetic etc? I accept it might feel polite to do so but that's very different to being genuinely apologetic for what you are or aren't into.

(3) Perhaps more importantly, when did we arrive at the point when the whole financial thing has become almost 'routine' and that there's a building assumption of it being part of even just casual conversation? For the record, I don't consider this person 'my sub' in any way...

(4)... I don't want anyone I enjoy chatting with to feel the need to conform to a particular dynamic or set of expectations. I especially don't want them to feel that they're under some kind of obligation to 'tribute' to a dom they speak to or to feel apologetic for not doing so.

(5) I could very easily turn this into a rant about power exchanges and consent of all involved but that's something I could write an essay on so Twitter really isn't the venue. Point is, seriously guys, there's a difference between chatting, dynamic respect and a relationship.