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I get that a lot of TERFs are processing their own trauma over how they've been treated by men and their sense of vulnerability. But when your coping mechanism is "hurting other people," all you're doing is perpetuating cycles of abuse.
We've seen it so often in children of abuse being more likely to themselves become abusive, and this is much the same dynamic. Both are explicable. Both are also cruel and unjustifiable.
TERFs: I am so, so sorry that so many of you have been victimized by men to the degree that this degree of hypervigilance and fear is your response. But we aren't the enemy; we're victims, too.
Trans women are vastly more likely to receive abuse than to give it, and from the same people who have abused *you*: cisgender men who think they have a right to. We ought to be on the same side, as mutual supports.
We are just as concerned about abuse as you. We are just as subject to it. I understand why you think we are; you've trained yourself to look for male threats for your own safety. But that's not us. It never has been.
And sending us to the men's room is as good as throwing us to the very same wolves you're trying to escape. We aren't going to apologize for pointing that out.
Thank you, and I genuinely wish you healing and peace.
