They both make a valid point about one half of the problem: We should take politics seriously and organize, but we should also step back from this level of personal emotional investment. It’s not healthy, normal or useful.

When identity, self-expression and one’s "personal narrative" become the basis for the collective politics/morality, it perverts our electoral politics––which take on the spectacular and tribal dimensions of sport.

I implicate myself here, of course, Trump became too much a part of my life. Am increasingly influenced by Mark Lilla's argument (stated wonderfully in the most recent @readliberties) that we ought to all try to be indifferent. "Nothing is everything," he writes.

Lilla:

"The more Americans learn to tolerate difference the less they are able to tolerate indifference. But it is precisely the right to indifference that we must assert now. The right to choose one’s own battles, to find one’s own balance between the True, the Good, and the Beautiful"