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If you had to give your younger self some lessons you’ve learned about sex and pleasure in general, what would you teach them?
(I love these exercises because I’m always so excited about how much I keep learning about and for myself
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(I love these exercises because I’m always so excited about how much I keep learning about and for myself
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For me, a few main things would be:
1. Pleasure is in everything, you don’t have to want to have sex to be connected to feeling yum in your body. Remember the things that make you feel good: making and drinking tea, reading, spending time with a loved one, playing games...
1. Pleasure is in everything, you don’t have to want to have sex to be connected to feeling yum in your body. Remember the things that make you feel good: making and drinking tea, reading, spending time with a loved one, playing games...
2. MASTURBATE! Do things that make you feel good, just for you. Hump a pillow, use your hands, get some toys, use objects to give yourself different sensations! Take your body for a ride 
3. If a person refuses to ‘hang out’ because you’re on your period (or if they REALLY want to hang because you are and that makes you uncomfortable) forget about them! Learning about your own boundaries is important.
4. It’s perfectly normal and okay to be curious about sex. Google, ask questions, talk to your friends. Don’t let anyone feel like they can violate your boundaries because they know more than you do about something - YOU know your body best.
5. Casual sex doesn’t mean without care!
6. Teach yourself and explore why you like the things you do. (And the things you don’t!) Context brings so much more healing and joy.
7. Only say yes when you mean it. Learn what it feels like not to mean it and remember that feeling in your body.
8. Thank yourself and others for pleasures you experience and share with each other
