Re real unity: I think about this one reparenting affirmation. Rather than blame--"you ruined everything! What's wrong with you"--starting from a place of empathy. "I bet that hurts. I bet it doesn't feel good to know you hurt someone." I wonder how trump/q ppl experience that.

In my experience, socialized in TX: the response is often cynical. "That's how life is!" "They started it!" So what comes after that response? I hope they find it, and I'm so glad they can like--do that on their own time, now, for a while, in the absence of The Storm.

(one of my favorite books is still h murakami's Underground, whose second part is all interviews with aum shinrikyo people coping with the realization that shoko asahara sold them out, and how they continue living. My first novel came out of reading that. I may go read it again.)