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Stuff you should know about single people: a book I should probably write.
1. We don't necessarily see singleness as a transitional state, especially as we get older. Some of us hope for a partner, some of us don't, there's a whole spectrum of how much we care or think about it. https://twitter.com/cindywangbrandt/status/1351667498706374657
1. We don't necessarily see singleness as a transitional state, especially as we get older. Some of us hope for a partner, some of us don't, there's a whole spectrum of how much we care or think about it. https://twitter.com/cindywangbrandt/status/1351667498706374657
2. We're responsible for literally everything. Decisions don't require as much negotiation, but we have to make at least twice as many of them. Instead of partners we have decisions. They are just as exhausting but they can't hug us at the end of the day.
Lacking a spouse doesn't not mean we are lacking in knowledge of love, commitment, self-giving, etc. In many ways we have to do these things MORE because we don't have one designated person who is assumed to be the object of all that.
Having a medical procedure can be a PRODUCTION. Everyone assumes you have A Person to tend to you in a bazillion ways. If you don't have A Person, you have to fill those bazillion gaps with friends/family/paid people as you are able. It's awkward and it's a lot of work.
You really haven't lived until you've considered which of your friends would be less horrified/horrifying to help you bathe or use the bathroom.
Even taking my dog to the vet is a trip. "One of you hold her while the other one does such and such..."
*looks around for 'the other one'*
So...you'll be sending a vet tech home with me then?
*looks around for 'the other one'*
So...you'll be sending a vet tech home with me then?
Anyway, I actually love being single and am not really built for having someone else in my living space. But I don't love unhelpful assumptions that there's someone else around to help me out with things. I have to adapt tasks to just me.
A lot of single life is not actually simpler as people assume; it has an extra layer of time and coordination because there’s no extra pair of hands and no safety net.
Lots of figuring out how not to need help. And when you can’t avoid it, lots of time figuring out who and how to ask, putting out multiple requests, working out the logistics of someone else helping.
