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I promised to write a thread on Male conceptualization and challenges that come with it.
First of, I'm not trying to downgrade the
I promised to write a thread on Male conceptualization and challenges that come with it.
First of, I'm not trying to downgrade the
challenges women face in the society, that would be hypocritical. I'm talking from a human perspective; for men, about men. Biologically and not from societal hindsight, because humans make up the society and we can be so wrong, yet judgemental.
1. MEN INTERACTION
Men and boys
1. MEN INTERACTION
Men and boys
are generally seen as "Societal animals". This is an expression I personally formed. By "societal animals" I mean, men and boys are stereotypically attached to violence and oppression. While aggression in males is entirely seen as reckless and dangerous, it could be channelled
into many positive things. But naturally there has been an unconscious and conventional response to the energy of a "pack" of males. They are often tagged as reckless and wrong energy, meaning they should be protected from.
This falsehood makes them victims to themselves, but
This falsehood makes them victims to themselves, but
threat to the society.
Mothers from their experience or understanding of males as "societal animals" unconsciously view their boys as potential energy from hindsight. Meanwhile fathers who probably was never viewed from a victim perspective at any point in their lives respond
Mothers from their experience or understanding of males as "societal animals" unconsciously view their boys as potential energy from hindsight. Meanwhile fathers who probably was never viewed from a victim perspective at any point in their lives respond
and groom their boys outside every possible thought of weakness.
2. RESPONSE TO SOCIETAL EXPECTATION
This is another area where men fail woefully, not because they don't have the capacity to excel. But reality hits them them too quickly than they imagine.
The period of
2. RESPONSE TO SOCIETAL EXPECTATION
This is another area where men fail woefully, not because they don't have the capacity to excel. But reality hits them them too quickly than they imagine.
The period of
transition from a boy to a man is where society fail men the most. By society I mean( Parents, tutors, family members, friends at times...) and all those that are capable of influencing them.
One day boys are seen as reckless and void of reasoning, but the next day they are
One day boys are seen as reckless and void of reasoning, but the next day they are
entrusted with the responsibility of leading those around them. All of a sudden men that were seen as objects of aggression are seen as subjects of criticism if they are not gentle. Same men that were void of communication are seen as conscientious leaders.
That's why we have so
That's why we have so
many "boys" in men body in the society. They lacks the ideas of what a man should be but they held to equal standard as men.
"Too whom much is given much is expected" that's how it should be.
3. BOY EMPOWERMENT
The common ideology of boy empowerment comes with broad shoulder
"Too whom much is given much is expected" that's how it should be.
3. BOY EMPOWERMENT
The common ideology of boy empowerment comes with broad shoulder
and genital that nature hand to them. But how true is that?
No man today or across history have been able to amass wealth or associate with nobility solely due to his sexual prowess, except he creates value out of it e.g Male porn stars.
Now, what I mean by value is what you
No man today or across history have been able to amass wealth or associate with nobility solely due to his sexual prowess, except he creates value out of it e.g Male porn stars.
Now, what I mean by value is what you
can sell to people to make sustainable financial gain. It could be image, commodity, ideas, service of any kind...
That said, we see 'Girl child empowerment' where girls are taught to observe the paradigm shift and create value out of the strength they ignore. What happens to
That said, we see 'Girl child empowerment' where girls are taught to observe the paradigm shift and create value out of the strength they ignore. What happens to
'Boy child empowerment'? Many women would argue that men should responsible for that which I agree to, because men may understand the struggles of boys better. But if women have the right to criticize men and identify their flaws, they could as well help curb it and help build
men build the kind of men that won't be menace to societal peace, considering they birth and train men too.
4. MEN AS INITIATORS
This is another common difficulty for men. At often times in life we all initiate certain ideas, transitions, traditions, trends, relationships,
4. MEN AS INITIATORS
This is another common difficulty for men. At often times in life we all initiate certain ideas, transitions, traditions, trends, relationships,
union, agreement...
Now this is very dicey because the idea is different for each gender, more so each human being. Men used to be respected for how strong, hardworking, bold and fearless they are, even though financial strength was the major determinant. Now men are respected
Now this is very dicey because the idea is different for each gender, more so each human being. Men used to be respected for how strong, hardworking, bold and fearless they are, even though financial strength was the major determinant. Now men are respected
for how much financial muscle they can flex. But let's not forget that it is almost impossible to achieve financial freedom without creating value in present days.
This is gradually bridging the economic gap between men and women, because unlike before when you need to work hard
This is gradually bridging the economic gap between men and women, because unlike before when you need to work hard
to make money and gain yourself respect as a man, now you need to hard, smart and careful.
This has been an issue for men because they are expected to be initiators but they continue losing their bargain power.
I don't expect any "what about women?"
This has been an issue for men because they are expected to be initiators but they continue losing their bargain power.
I don't expect any "what about women?"
"The society is built by the same men" comments. We need to do better and away with cognitive resonance when we're identifying flaws that has made relationship between men and women sore.
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