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Rating all the excuses I made to myself as a kid on why I'm not trans.
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"It's just a fetish" - 8/10
This one kicked my ass for a long time, especially since it had a scientific name on Wikipedia and my fantasies did involve me as a woman.
Of course, women tend to imagine themselves as women during sex and I had a lot of non-sexy fantasies too so...
This one kicked my ass for a long time, especially since it had a scientific name on Wikipedia and my fantasies did involve me as a woman.
Of course, women tend to imagine themselves as women during sex and I had a lot of non-sexy fantasies too so...
"I just want a girlfriend" - 3/10
Just a very flimsy excuse. I was actually had several girlfriends in my youth and was pretty popular with women (it was my bishounen features combined with my depression masquerading as maturity)
Just a very flimsy excuse. I was actually had several girlfriends in my youth and was pretty popular with women (it was my bishounen features combined with my depression masquerading as maturity)
"I'm a gay man in denial" - 6/10
A rather crafty one since my internalised homophobia meant I could never explore a gay relationship to debunk it. However, even though I am bi, I could only imagine myself with a man when I was a woman, being a gay man just seemed weird.
A rather crafty one since my internalised homophobia meant I could never explore a gay relationship to debunk it. However, even though I am bi, I could only imagine myself with a man when I was a woman, being a gay man just seemed weird.
"I'm perpetuating Asian male emasculation" - 7/10
Pretty good, really, and I fell into the femboy trap for a while. But even when I went super masc, the feeling never went away and I felt even worse about myself (got some mad abs for a while though)
Pretty good, really, and I fell into the femboy trap for a while. But even when I went super masc, the feeling never went away and I felt even worse about myself (got some mad abs for a while though)
"Maybe I'm intersex/have a hormone imbalance/have a mental condition" - 2/10
Not only do none of these traits preclude one from being trans, several of them would even correlate. Only redeeming points is that it was impossible for me to debunk it as a kid with no money for tests
Not only do none of these traits preclude one from being trans, several of them would even correlate. Only redeeming points is that it was impossible for me to debunk it as a kid with no money for tests
"It's just a phase" - Starts at 10/10, then loses a point every year after 13.
A pretty standard response, but of course the feelings never went away. It was almost as if the feelings of dysphoria were consistent and insistent
A pretty standard response, but of course the feelings never went away. It was almost as if the feelings of dysphoria were consistent and insistent
"My internalised misogyny thinks being a girl would be easier" - 1/10
Wow young me, you really had to jump through hoops on this one. I don't know how you, an Asian boy, could have thought being a girl was easier, but I guess you always were creative.
Wow young me, you really had to jump through hoops on this one. I don't know how you, an Asian boy, could have thought being a girl was easier, but I guess you always were creative.
"I'd be an ugly girl" - 0/10
Not only is this not an excuse, not only is it not a good reason to not transition, but I also did not, in fact, make an ugly girl.
Not only is this not an excuse, not only is it not a good reason to not transition, but I also did not, in fact, make an ugly girl.
"I want to be a girl, but I'm not trans" -10/10
Last one for best. This excuse was simply a masterpiece of cognitive dissonance usually reserved for people that think a billionaire reality show host cares about working people.
Last one for best. This excuse was simply a masterpiece of cognitive dissonance usually reserved for people that think a billionaire reality show host cares about working people.
And that's all the major ones I can remember. If you're a "cis" person reading this and any of them seem to resonate with you, well, my DMs are open if you want to talk.
Now I will stop tweeting for the night.
Now I will stop tweeting for the night.
