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12 Lessons Learned from 12 Years of Marriage
Today Swati and I are celebrating our 12th marriage anniversary.
So here are 12 lessons that keep the cliché of happily ever after alive for us.
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Today Swati and I are celebrating our 12th marriage anniversary.
So here are 12 lessons that keep the cliché of happily ever after alive for us.
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1. Discuss your values early in the relationship.
We married early and didn't know better. On the course of our journey, we figured out what our non-negotiables are and what are not. It pays to discuss this early in the relationship. https://twitter.com/FitFounder/status/1350909632882110468
We married early and didn't know better. On the course of our journey, we figured out what our non-negotiables are and what are not. It pays to discuss this early in the relationship. https://twitter.com/FitFounder/status/1350909632882110468
2. Play on your strengths
Figure out your strengths.
Family finances are my domain, keeping ourselves organized is her's.
Mark your domains and never encroach on each other's fiefdoms. Act as a team, not as competitors.
Figure out your strengths.
Family finances are my domain, keeping ourselves organized is her's.
Mark your domains and never encroach on each other's fiefdoms. Act as a team, not as competitors.
3. Sort out your finance together
Plan your expenses, your investments, and your goals for life together.
Pool your contributions towards the common expenses. Don't interfere with personal expenses.
Good financial health is a bedrock of marriage.
Plan your expenses, your investments, and your goals for life together.
Pool your contributions towards the common expenses. Don't interfere with personal expenses.
Good financial health is a bedrock of marriage.
4. Complement each other instead of completing each other
Marriage doesn't mean fusing two lives together and creating something grotesque.
It resembles a Venn diagram. Two people carrying on their life, but deciding to dedicate a portion of life towards their shared goals.
Marriage doesn't mean fusing two lives together and creating something grotesque.
It resembles a Venn diagram. Two people carrying on their life, but deciding to dedicate a portion of life towards their shared goals.
5. A lover is great. A friend is even better.
Marry someone with whom you can talk your heart out. Bust each other's balls (well not literally
).
Squash out your insecurities together and then you'll find tons to talk about.
Marry someone with whom you can talk your heart out. Bust each other's balls (well not literally
). Squash out your insecurities together and then you'll find tons to talk about.
6. Communicate
Talk. Talk. Talk. And when in doubt, talk more.
Learn to frame your questions to resolve conflicts and not fan them. Resolve them early, don't let them fester.
And if you think two people can live together without conflicts you are living a fool's dream.
Talk. Talk. Talk. And when in doubt, talk more.
Learn to frame your questions to resolve conflicts and not fan them. Resolve them early, don't let them fester.
And if you think two people can live together without conflicts you are living a fool's dream.
Argue, but stay kind while doing that.
Momentary satisfaction from a seething remark is not worth the bad aftertaste.
Forgive each other and never ever hold a grudge. https://twitter.com/wiseconnector/status/1351016619213017091
Momentary satisfaction from a seething remark is not worth the bad aftertaste.
Forgive each other and never ever hold a grudge. https://twitter.com/wiseconnector/status/1351016619213017091
7. Don't let the romance die
The small gestures, the impromptu hugs, the genuine compliments, they never get old.
Choose to love and appreciate each other.
The small gestures, the impromptu hugs, the genuine compliments, they never get old.
Choose to love and appreciate each other.
8. Sex is important
Talk about your expectations. Have routines.
And if you to get unplanned time together, don't let it go to waste.
Talk about your expectations. Have routines.
And if you to get unplanned time together, don't let it go to waste.
9. In-laws are a tricky subject
Never compromise your boundaries or ask your partner to cross theirs when dealing with in-laws.
Keep the inner sanctum of your marriage free from the influences of your in-laws.
Never compromise your boundaries or ask your partner to cross theirs when dealing with in-laws.
Keep the inner sanctum of your marriage free from the influences of your in-laws.
10. Cultivate gratitude
Be grateful and get rid of the entitlements.
There is no "supposed to". Treat every help as a bonus.
Never take each other for granted and count your blessings together. You will attract more of them.
Be grateful and get rid of the entitlements.
There is no "supposed to". Treat every help as a bonus.
Never take each other for granted and count your blessings together. You will attract more of them.
11. Accept changes
Don't expect your relationship to stay the same.
As you grow your relation will also mature, evolve, and grow. Don't try to contort it back to the old cast.
Don't expect your relationship to stay the same.
As you grow your relation will also mature, evolve, and grow. Don't try to contort it back to the old cast.
12. No compromises on self-care
Take good care of yourself. Never sacrifice your well being for your relation.
If both cannot coexist, then there is no relationship.
Don't aim for perfection, but do aim for good enough. https://twitter.com/iGrowthHQ/status/1351094845801115649
Take good care of yourself. Never sacrifice your well being for your relation.
If both cannot coexist, then there is no relationship.
Don't aim for perfection, but do aim for good enough. https://twitter.com/iGrowthHQ/status/1351094845801115649
What else would you add? What works for your relationship?
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