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Here is a primer on giving a woman you don't know a compliment in a way that might actually leave her happy about the interaction.
If you think you don't need this, you definitely need this.
Here is a primer on giving a woman you don't know a compliment in a way that might actually leave her happy about the interaction.
If you think you don't need this, you definitely need this.
CONDITION 1:
Are you capable of going away immediately after giving the compliment?
If you cannot end with "Have a great [day]" and then leave, keep the compliment in your head.
Are you capable of going away immediately after giving the compliment?
If you cannot end with "Have a great [day]" and then leave, keep the compliment in your head.
CONDITION 2:
Is she doing something? Is she on the phone, reading a book, listening to music?
If she's not just sitting or standing around, or walking directly past you, keep the compliment in your head.
Is she doing something? Is she on the phone, reading a book, listening to music?
If she's not just sitting or standing around, or walking directly past you, keep the compliment in your head.
Look! We're getting closer to actually saying that nice thing!
CONDITION 3:
Think about your compliment.
Would you enjoy it if a man you didn't know said what you're about to say, to you?
Stick with clothing, makeup, shoes, hairstyle, etc., and words like "great" or "nice".
CONDITION 3:
Think about your compliment.
Would you enjoy it if a man you didn't know said what you're about to say, to you?
Stick with clothing, makeup, shoes, hairstyle, etc., and words like "great" or "nice".
CONDITION 3a:
Do not directly mention her body.
"Your ass looks great in those jeans!"
"Great jeans!"
"I love seeing those abs!"
"Nice tone!"
Do not directly mention her body.
"Your ass looks great in those jeans!" "Great jeans!" "I love seeing those abs!" "Nice tone!"
OKAY WE MIGHT BE ABOUT TO BRIGHTEN SOMEONE'S DAY
We have our exit, she's not doing anything obvious, and we're gonna say something we'd be okay hearing from some strange dude
We have our exit, she's not doing anything obvious, and we're gonna say something we'd be okay hearing from some strange dude
The compliment comes in four simple parts:
1) "Hi/pardon me/excuse me"
2) "I just wanted to say [compliment]"
3) "Have a great [day]!"
4) EXIT
1) "Hi/pardon me/excuse me"
2) "I just wanted to say [compliment]"
3) "Have a great [day]!"
4) EXIT
Step 4, EXIT, is incredibly important.
If the compliment went well, you aren't sticking around to fuck it up with the next thing outta your mouth.
If the compliment didn't land for some reason, your continued presence won't make her feel bad.
If the compliment went well, you aren't sticking around to fuck it up with the next thing outta your mouth.
If the compliment didn't land for some reason, your continued presence won't make her feel bad.
"But what if I want to get to know her?!"
1) Fuck you; you DON'T know her. AT ALL. The only thing you know is she's wearing cute eyeshadow.
2) She is perfectly goddamned capable of saying words to continue the conversation if she's so inclined.
1) Fuck you; you DON'T know her. AT ALL. The only thing you know is she's wearing cute eyeshadow.
2) She is perfectly goddamned capable of saying words to continue the conversation if she's so inclined.
You're doing this to make another person's day happier. You want a conversation? Phone a friend. You want a bride? Get on Tinder.
I can tell you, few things make a woman happier than not having to deal with some random dude any longer than necessary.
I can tell you, few things make a woman happier than not having to deal with some random dude any longer than necessary.
I can tell you that if you follow this formula, it often goes well.
"Hi! Just wanted to say, I love your nails! Have a great one," followed by your walking away, is actually sweet and usually leaves a person smiling. Knowing you made someone happy gives you a smile, too.
"Hi! Just wanted to say, I love your nails! Have a great one," followed by your walking away, is actually sweet and usually leaves a person smiling. Knowing you made someone happy gives you a smile, too.
