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Receiving a "Backhanded compliment" is such a cliché today. A lot of people are being insulted with a compliment but have absolutely no idea. "I don't usually date short girls but you're pretty" this is an insult disguised as a compliment. A Thread...
A backhanded compliment is any comment that blurs the line between an insult and a compliment. When someone pays you a backhanded compliment, you could take it purely as a compliment, and walk away with the glow of receiving a nice comment about your character or appearance...
Oftentimes, the receiver can simply end up feeling confused. Was the comment intended kindly or negatively? Why say something nice but ruin it with the insulting aspect? Is this person being friendly or not? Are they just throwing shades at me or something?
This confusion and the two-sidedness of a backhanded compliment, is what makes it such a powerful form of communication. it drops you in a complete state of confusion. Most times you don't want to be overly dramatic and too sensitive to you just take it as a compliment...
Backhanded compliments are, by their nature, easy to miss thanks to the fact that they are often wrapped in what feels like a genuine compliment. it has to look like a compliment while throwing shades at the same time. "I get A for the course, so you sef get A? Nawa o"...
There's a saying that " if you don't know what to say, just shut up". Some people will always have something nice to say as well as some bitter shades to throw as well. These are the sort of people to avoid at all cost...
"You have such a beautiful smile aside ur nose" Unnecessary observations, a very soft backhanded compliment, include a nice thought, as well as an observation about ur habits or character that you probably never even thought of yourself, but you'll also probably never forget.
"omo you fine today o" While they may simply want to share a kind thought, the "today" could be misunderstood as comparing your appearance with other days, despite their good intentions. Imagine someone telling you "I was going to talk to you but you seem prideful"...
receiving a backhanded compliment might not actually have anything to do with you. Not even in the slightest. These people are just effortlessly toxic on their own. There are people who approach life with a negative point of view, which adds a negative tone to their opinions...
If you have given a backhanded compliment that can't be explained right away, apologize, mean it, and remember not to do it again! It is a bad and toxic behavior to have. It comes in all languages. Even in Yoruba " íwó nà mà tín jé pizza"?...
This sounds like a joke right. Yes, that is what a backhanded compliment looks like. It is supposed to sound like a joke while lunching as an insult. Jokes like this needs to be stopped. Give a genuine compliment or shut up. Own up to giving people genuine compliments...
Stop spreading toxicity around just to feed your ego. As ugly and degrading as these compliments are, no one should be subjected to such mediocre remarks. It shouldn't be tolerated. If you don't reject a backhanded compliment on the spot they will keep coming at you...
Most people don't even know how hurtful these compliments are until you tell them. Compliments like these may leave you doubting how you perceive yourself. You start prioritizing how other people perceive you more. It sabotages your self-esteem.
Spread this awareness as much as you can. Backhanded compliments are bad and shouldn't be tolerated. Let's stop these downpour of toxicity once and for all.
@Biyatife @HaleemAigo @Rukeiyahh @MOkedunwon @emma_baggy @_uzodike @MentallyAwareNG @ChinyereUgokwe
@Biyatife @HaleemAigo @Rukeiyahh @MOkedunwon @emma_baggy @_uzodike @MentallyAwareNG @ChinyereUgokwe
