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Some practical things about marriage that very few people tell you before you get married.
Again, ladies, this is primarily for men.
Again, ladies, this is primarily for men.
First: The stereotypes of the honeymoon and post-honeymoon phases exist because they are true.
And they happen because of several reasons.
The chief among them being reality kicking in and both spouses beginning to lose their attraction for each other.
And they happen because of several reasons.
The chief among them being reality kicking in and both spouses beginning to lose their attraction for each other.
At the end of the day, though, it is largely upon the man to behave in a way that maintains his wife's attraction for him.
And, no. Attraction is not just a physical thing.
The key to attraction is polarity. You are a man. Your wife is a woman.
And, no. Attraction is not just a physical thing.
The key to attraction is polarity. You are a man. Your wife is a woman.
Behave in a way that a suave, charming, masculine man behaves and that will automatically elicit attractive feminine behaviors from your wife.
Second: If you're going to be married for 30/40 years both of you are going to experience your wife's period at least 300 times within the marriage context.
Knowing how to deal with your wife's mood swings during her period is an immensely practical thing.
Knowing how to deal with your wife's mood swings during her period is an immensely practical thing.
Yet nobody tells you what to expect.
The key for men here is patience coupled with appropriate boundary management.
For example, you can be patient with her if she messes up your dinner, but apply appropriate boundaries if she disrespects your parents.
The key for men here is patience coupled with appropriate boundary management.
For example, you can be patient with her if she messes up your dinner, but apply appropriate boundaries if she disrespects your parents.
A period is a chance for you to be patient, but it not an excuse for her to display disrespectful behavior.
Third: Pregnancy, child birth and taking care of an infant are immensely difficult things for a woman. This is where you are going to have to be the most patient.
The most important element is going to be lack of sleep for the first couple of months after giving birth.
The most important element is going to be lack of sleep for the first couple of months after giving birth.
She's going to be tired, so don't provoke her.
Fourth: When your youngest child hits the 7 year mark, or your oldest is old enough to take care of your younger children, your wife will have a lot of free time on her hands.
Your job here will be to direct her to beneficial behaviors that can fill up her time.
Your job here will be to direct her to beneficial behaviors that can fill up her time.
If you don't, the old adage "an empty mind is the devil's workshop" will certainly kick in.
Fifth: You may or may not be a social butterfly. But your wife certainly is. It's written into her feminine programming.
Give your wife a social life because it is as necessary for her to have one, just as food is necessary for physical nourishment.
Give your wife a social life because it is as necessary for her to have one, just as food is necessary for physical nourishment.
Six: Your wife is not your "friend" in the same way that your male friends are your friends. You cannot relate to women in the same way you relate to other men. Gender specific brain wiring makes sure of that.
If you hung out with the homies before marriage, make it a point to continue the tradition even after.
No, this doesnt mean ignoring your wife and your kids.
What this does mean is that you should have a slot in your schedule open for bonding experiences with other men.
No, this doesnt mean ignoring your wife and your kids.
What this does mean is that you should have a slot in your schedule open for bonding experiences with other men.
It's fine if you meet just to talk, but the male bonding experience is more beneficial if centered around an activity, e.g. sports.
