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Your real self manifests under pressure.
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When someone loses reign over their emotions under pressure, they usually excuses themselves like this:
" Sorry. The situation made me lose my cool "
No. The situation made you lose your conscious restraints.
" Sorry. The situation made me lose my cool "
No. The situation made you lose your conscious restraints.
What appeared when you "lost your cool" was your raw unconscious mind in its ugly glory.
That's why people tend to say the truth of what they really think while mad.
That's why people tend to say the truth of what they really think while mad.
Intense pressure opens a window for you to peek into a person's mind.
What you usually find in them is quite revealing.
Judge accordingly and don't easily forget the view.
What you usually find in them is quite revealing.
Judge accordingly and don't easily forget the view.
If you ever had experienced abuse from your partner, maybe you know what I'm talking about.
After the beating, they usually excuse themselves and ask for forgiveness.
Perhaps you forgave them only to get yourself beaten again when you turned the other cheek.
After the beating, they usually excuse themselves and ask for forgiveness.
Perhaps you forgave them only to get yourself beaten again when you turned the other cheek.
You ignored the fact that you watched their real, untamered emotions from the front row and decided to pretend it never happened.
"They deserve a better chance. After all, we are human and make mistakes"
Cue to the next beating.
"They deserve a better chance. After all, we are human and make mistakes"
Cue to the next beating.
They may even say "I love you" after the beating and you believe them anyway.
Bullshit. And deep down you know it.
Bullshit. And deep down you know it.
I'm giving you an example here but this also happens in less extreme occasions, like verbal abuse while mad or even screaming because someone cut them off in traffic.
The good news is it's possible to control your emotions.
There are people whom under pressure, when they open the window to their subconscious, you can only see a sea of calm.
A picture of serenity.
There are people whom under pressure, when they open the window to their subconscious, you can only see a sea of calm.
A picture of serenity.
There are people with such a mastery of their emotions out there.
I'm sure they are less than 1% of humans.
Are you one of them?
If not, are you working hard to be one of them?
I'm sure they are less than 1% of humans.
Are you one of them?
If not, are you working hard to be one of them?
How can you recognize people who can master their emotions?
By testing them in extreme occasions.
I'm not telling you how to do that. Use your wits and cunning.
By testing them in extreme occasions.
I'm not telling you how to do that. Use your wits and cunning.
It helps to learn to see the little facts of their character and from them to paint a bigger picture.
Keen observation and studying some psychology will help you in this quest.
But remember to observe yourself first.
Keen observation and studying some psychology will help you in this quest.
But remember to observe yourself first.
