The polite-yet-undermining asks about my sexuality I've had for the last few days have really worn me out. Starting to realise you're stuck between a rock and a hard place if you write queer fiction.

If you don't come out, your right to write queer relationships is questioned – which I get, to a degree – but if you do come out, you get people who don't think you're the right kind of queer, or queer enough, or asking you why you came out before you were sure, etc.

When I published PRIORY, readers asked if I was queer, which is fine. I chose to answer truthfully.

Now I have people implying that perhaps I should have ‘quietly’ explored my sexuality and reached a full and final conclusion before I ‘declared’ it to everyone who follows me.

I just . . . don't know what people me to say. To describe all my feelings and experiences and thoughts and desires in public, in detail? Do I need to provide some kind of written evidence of my queerness?

TL;DR: Argh