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Break ups are the shittiest part of dating, but you are going to have to deal with them
Here are some things you should know about break ups:
Break ups are the shittiest part of dating, but you are going to have to deal with them
Here are some things you should know about break ups:
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Breaking up with someone you've been with for a year or more, is going to hurt
Doesn't matter if it was you breaking up or her
Doesn't matter if the relationship was toxic or not
Doesn't matter how cool or alpha or stoic you are
Breaking up hurts
Breaking up with someone you've been with for a year or more, is going to hurt
Doesn't matter if it was you breaking up or her
Doesn't matter if the relationship was toxic or not
Doesn't matter how cool or alpha or stoic you are
Breaking up hurts
Your brain adopts to the relationships you have
When one of those relationships is suddenly cut off, that leaves a void
Just like when a loved one dies
Everyone feels this pain, no point in pretending you're above it
Your brain needs to rewire itself and deal with this
When one of those relationships is suddenly cut off, that leaves a void
Just like when a loved one dies
Everyone feels this pain, no point in pretending you're above it
Your brain needs to rewire itself and deal with this
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You can't rush the hurt
It takes time for you to reorganize your life
It takes time to fill the void a break up leaves you with
It takes time before your brain has dealt with the pain
It's a bitter pill you need to get through
You can't rush the hurt
It takes time for you to reorganize your life
It takes time to fill the void a break up leaves you with
It takes time before your brain has dealt with the pain
It's a bitter pill you need to get through
Accept that it hurts and that it will take a while before it doesn't hurt anymore
Don't make the mistake of
- Hopping into a new relationship
- Drowning your pain in partying and random hook ups
- Trying to get back with your ex
- Pretending it doesn't hurt
Don't make the mistake of
- Hopping into a new relationship
- Drowning your pain in partying and random hook ups
- Trying to get back with your ex
- Pretending it doesn't hurt
Relationship hopping never works. You bring all the pain and negativity from you previous relationship into your new one
Your new relationship is doomed from the start.
Instead of processing your previous relationship, you'll just give yourself more hurt by ruining another one
Your new relationship is doomed from the start.
Instead of processing your previous relationship, you'll just give yourself more hurt by ruining another one
Drowning the pain in partying and hook ups isn't much better
It's self destructive behavior
Instead of dealing with your hurt, you make it worse
These hook ups won't fulfill you in any way
They're just an attempt to find validation from strangers
It's self destructive behavior
Instead of dealing with your hurt, you make it worse
These hook ups won't fulfill you in any way
They're just an attempt to find validation from strangers
Not saying you can never party or have an one night stand
But don't do these things as an attempt to deal with your break up
The morning after will just make you feel worse
In the aftermath of your ONS, the hurt will find a way to come back with a vengeance
But don't do these things as an attempt to deal with your break up
The morning after will just make you feel worse
In the aftermath of your ONS, the hurt will find a way to come back with a vengeance
And the worst thing you can ever do after a break up, is trying to get back with your ex
That's like digging up your grandfather's corpse because you miss him so much
Doesn't work, you'll just get the rotting, ugly version of what was once great
That's like digging up your grandfather's corpse because you miss him so much
Doesn't work, you'll just get the rotting, ugly version of what was once great
Getting back with your ex just prolongs the pain
Your relationship was a bubble. The break up popped that bubble
You can't magically restore that bubble
Getting back with your ex only leads to bad things
Poor frame, jealousy, distrust, blame games
Don't do it, ever
Your relationship was a bubble. The break up popped that bubble
You can't magically restore that bubble
Getting back with your ex only leads to bad things
Poor frame, jealousy, distrust, blame games
Don't do it, ever
Accept for yourself that your break up hurts right now
Accept that you feel lonely right now. Like a piece of you is missing
Accept that you cannot fill this void by quickly dating someone new, or by having one night stands, or by getting back with your ex
Accept that you feel lonely right now. Like a piece of you is missing
Accept that you cannot fill this void by quickly dating someone new, or by having one night stands, or by getting back with your ex
Break ups take time
Sometimes they take a lot of time
You can't cut off the person you loved the most for 5 years and expect it to be easy
Time will heal as the cliche goes
But only if you do the right things after your break up
Sometimes they take a lot of time
You can't cut off the person you loved the most for 5 years and expect it to be easy
Time will heal as the cliche goes
But only if you do the right things after your break up
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Take some time away from dating
Let's say 3-6 months
During those months focus purely on yourself
Focus on your goals
Go do the things you always wanted to do but didn't because of your relationship
Take some time away from dating
Let's say 3-6 months
During those months focus purely on yourself
Focus on your goals
Go do the things you always wanted to do but didn't because of your relationship
Work on improving yourself. Become a better you.
Channel the pain and anger you might feel after your break up, and use it to create
Maybe finally start that business
Maybe finally start going to the gym
Or pick up that hobby
Go visit new places
Now is the time
Channel the pain and anger you might feel after your break up, and use it to create
Maybe finally start that business
Maybe finally start going to the gym
Or pick up that hobby
Go visit new places
Now is the time
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After a serious break up, get rid of everything that reminds you of your ex
Either throw it all out, or put it in a box and stuff it away in a place you hardly ever come
Get rid of the daily reminders
After a serious break up, get rid of everything that reminds you of your ex
Either throw it all out, or put it in a box and stuff it away in a place you hardly ever come
Get rid of the daily reminders
The things that remind you of her are like anchors keeping you stuck to the past
This is why new environments often help after a break up
Moving to a new house or city often helps dealing with a break up
Taking a few weeks to go travel also helps a lot
This is why new environments often help after a break up
Moving to a new house or city often helps dealing with a break up
Taking a few weeks to go travel also helps a lot
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Go spend some time by yourself
Travelling by yourself is great for this
Go take a 4 day hike alone through nature
This will give you time to reflect and become at peace with being alone
Will help you heal faster
Go spend some time by yourself
Travelling by yourself is great for this
Go take a 4 day hike alone through nature
This will give you time to reflect and become at peace with being alone
Will help you heal faster
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You will get over the hurt if you do the right things
If you focus on yourself right now
If you focus on the future
Then eventually you will get over your break up
And you will open yourself up to new and better relationships
So keep going!
You will get over the hurt if you do the right things
If you focus on yourself right now
If you focus on the future
Then eventually you will get over your break up
And you will open yourself up to new and better relationships
So keep going!