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Good morning you handsome and gorgeous lot! Let’s talk Problem Behavior Prevention! Remember how I say a lot of #PositiveParenting is what you do to mitigate tantrums and problem behavior? Here are 7 strategies. You don’t have to do all. You can do 1 or a few.
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Avoid certain situations and people:
This one can’t always happen right. However, you know your child and there are certain situations that you know they can’t or won’t handle well rescheduling where you can go alone is helpful
This one can’t always happen right. However, you know your child and there are certain situations that you know they can’t or won’t handle well rescheduling where you can go alone is helpful
Control the environment:
I talk about this one a lot. Give them a space where they CAN! Remove or place high the “No”, “Don’t”, & “Stop”
I talk about this one a lot. Give them a space where they CAN! Remove or place high the “No”, “Don’t”, & “Stop”
Doing things in small doses:
Overstimulation is real!!! Having say you can’t avoid taking your toddler to the grocery store with you but you know they are tired and moody. Try just getting essentials for the night and getting your big list done later. 1/
Overstimulation is real!!! Having say you can’t avoid taking your toddler to the grocery store with you but you know they are tired and moody. Try just getting essentials for the night and getting your big list done later. 1/
This also goes for introducing them to new things and people. Start small and gradually work your way up. 2/
Change the Order of Events:
So yes routine is important (especially in my house). However absolutely no deviation from your routine gives you a child with no resilience or openness to change (believe me I’m dealing with that while taking my course). Change events sometimes 1/
So yes routine is important (especially in my house). However absolutely no deviation from your routine gives you a child with no resilience or openness to change (believe me I’m dealing with that while taking my course). Change events sometimes 1/
But give your little person warnings and visual signs of the transitions to prepare. We have a visual schedule that I try to review with my Paris. Riley don’t be caring
Respond to early signs of a problem:
This is where observing your child is very important because everyone has tell for when they age getting fed up, tired, or overly excited/anxious.
When Paris is fed up she flaps her hand and does a very fed up face 1/
This is where observing your child is very important because everyone has tell for when they age getting fed up, tired, or overly excited/anxious.
When Paris is fed up she flaps her hand and does a very fed up face 1/
When Paris is tired she is cuddly, touchy/feely, and more relaxed, and when Paris is excited /anxious she spins, jumps, and runs from one end of the room to the next. These are my warnings. If I can respond then, I prevent the tantrum
Change How You Ask or Respond:
Do you give your child any choice? Do you acknowledge if your child is doing something when you request they do something new? Do you wait? They are people with feelings. That last 5 minutes of their show is important to them too. 1/
Do you give your child any choice? Do you acknowledge if your child is doing something when you request they do something new? Do you wait? They are people with feelings. That last 5 minutes of their show is important to them too. 1/
Finishing their book is important to them too.
Try giving notice before transitions: “Alright Paris we have to get ready to go in 5 minutes. Mommy is going to put on the timer for 5 more minutes of play on the playroom”
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Try giving notice before transitions: “Alright Paris we have to get ready to go in 5 minutes. Mommy is going to put on the timer for 5 more minutes of play on the playroom”
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“Riley how much longer is your show? Okay in 12 minutes when the show ends it’s time to start homework. I’m putting on my timer okay”
Offer choices. You have choices. Yes, even in things you have to do for survival you have choices. Give your children choices to prepare them 3/
Offer choices. You have choices. Yes, even in things you have to do for survival you have choices. Give your children choices to prepare them 3/
Offer limited choices while younger and you can added choices as the child gets older. Talk them through problem solving their choices.
Lastly, Address your setting and events:
I know the world we live in. Some of us can’t help our setting and events. I get that. However, if you feel kind of powerless, imagine what your child feels. Acknowledge that and do your best to be empathetic and mitigate all you can 1/
I know the world we live in. Some of us can’t help our setting and events. I get that. However, if you feel kind of powerless, imagine what your child feels. Acknowledge that and do your best to be empathetic and mitigate all you can 1/
What do I mean by this? I get a lot of, we don’t have space because we live in an apartment and we don’t have a yard for them to explore. This sucks and I get it. We lived with my MIL in one bedroom for 6 months while our home was being renovated. 2/
She’s a Jamaican woman who loves beautiful things and loves design and interior decorating. So I couldn’t let Paris or Riley truly roam in any room but the room given to us. So I set that room the best I could and took Paris on walks to the duck pond and park whenever I could
Last Bonus One, Positive Language:
Tell those kids what they can do instead of what they can’t do except in serious situations
Tell those kids what they can do instead of what they can’t do except in serious situations
Yes I learned these in training as a mother of Neurodiverse children, but as always, I feel they apply to ALL CHILDREN. Have a good day
And is it a Supernova Momma thread if there aren’t errors? I think not. Please give me grace. As always I’m breastfeeding toddlers and momming while writing these threads. However I do apologize and I am happy to clarify any confusion
