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One of the positives of Pakistani & Kashmiri culture in terms of marriage is that the men’s side (no matter how rich or poor they are) will be very, very generous when it comes to giving gifts to the bride.
I know people who’s grandparents held onto the gold they were gifted, worked & placed most of their wages in more gold too, and slept hungry so that their kids and grandkids could have a stable asset like gold to fall back on in the future.
People always speak about the negatives of Asian culture, rightfully so but let’s not let go of the positives or fail to recognise them.
Can we really see our generation being so selfless and planning financially for two or three generations ahead?…
Can we really see our generation being so selfless and planning financially for two or three generations ahead?…
Yes there are a small small amount of families who try taking the gold back upon divorce, or using it as some sort of leverage over the daughter in law...
This does put pressure on families who can’t afford what’s customarily given...
This does put pressure on families who can’t afford what’s customarily given...
1. A gift is a gift, it can’t be taken back.
2. There’s a vile culture of expectation developed, just because someone else in your family got gifted X amount, it doesn’t mean you go into wanting the same or more.
3. Nazr is real, don’t brag about what you’ve got.
2. There’s a vile culture of expectation developed, just because someone else in your family got gifted X amount, it doesn’t mean you go into wanting the same or more.
3. Nazr is real, don’t brag about what you’ve got.
I also know some families who won’t even allow their sons to get married despite them having stable jobs etc & being mature enough bc the family don’t have enough gold to gift... “what will people think” etc.
This is all born out of people showing off & the jealousy of others.
This is all born out of people showing off & the jealousy of others.
If those that have long gone before us could see how the auriferous intentions they seeded by which they sacrificed their own nutriment for have come to be corrupted by their very own seeds who’s kernels are rusted over & occluded by ostentation. They’d turn in the soil they lay.
