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I was shocked when I found out my ex and I had to be separated for a year before we could divorce. That wait was cruel and difficult and just prolonged my suffering, the thought of two years is horrifying. https://twitter.com/PercyKaren/status/1350215790092451842
People know themselves and their relationships and forcing people to remain bound in any way when they don't want to is stupid and more about punishment than wanting to heal marriages.
It took me breaking down in tears in Student Services for my uni to agree to let me change back to my maiden name without a divorce certificate, because I did not want my degree to have his name on it.
And this is my experience without having an abusive ex. The marriage ended badly, but I wasn't fleeing DV or particularly bad emotional or financial abuse, but I always get chills imagining someone in that situation trying to navigate this bullshit.
You're not letting society down if your marriage fails and, quite frankly, it's between you and your partner and not anyone else's business to dictate "having another go" at it. Especially if there are kids involved, BAD MARRIAGES FUCK KIDS UP
High divorce rates aren't necessarily a bad thing, they indicate BOTH partners have power and choice, mean that people aren't trapped by economics or custom in violent or abusive marriages. Low divorce rates don't mean happier marriages, just more people trapped in bad ones!
