@jasminbhasin some interesting reads really helped many people
https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-tell-if-youre-in-emotionally-abusive-relationship-according-to-experts-5746459 see 1,4,8,9,11

https://www.arborwoman.com/8-common-red-flags-new-relationships/ see 1-5, 7,8

https://hellogiggles.com/love-sex/relationships/red-flags-in-a-romantic-relationships/ see 1-3 and 7

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a22560833/romantic-gestures-red-flags/ see 4-6

https://www.thezoereport.com/p/5-dating-red-flags-that-disguise-as-romantic-gestures-21800175 see 2and 4

@jasminbhasin "romantic signs" that may actually be red flags:
1) love bombing you- all about grand romantic gestures and showering you with gifts
2) constantly checking up on you
3) overly protective of you
4) treating you like a child
5) want to spend ALL their time with you...

@jasminbhasin 6) constantly showing you off in front of others and excessive public displays of affection
7) lots of big words we are soulmates but day to day actions behind closed doors over months even years don't match up
8) their needs are always the priority...

@jasminbhasin 9) put burden on you to help them navigate life help them to change take care of them no one understands me like you do
10) constantly indicating how they like you to dress. act, like you in traditional roles
11) they always have to be right

@jasminbhasin 11) often yells and shouts at you when angry and anything can set them off
12) you feel you are walking on eggshells and constantly trying to please them
13) they play hot and cold loving kind one day, cold and distant the next time and the cycle keeps repeating

@jasminbhasin 14) you are constantly making excuses for them
15) they make you feel guilty
16) everything is an issue
17) to them everything is always someone else's fault - they are never to blame
18) they don't get along with your family