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it’s telling just how many journalists/big personalities on here have thought it appropriate to make jokes about the Armie Hammer situation, when several women have come forward with accusations of emotional abuse, manipulation, sexual violence (1/?)
TW: rape, sexual violence
I understand that some of them might not have known about the abuse and assault allegations and might have just seen the DMs - but, even so, some of those DMs detailed his fantasies about enacting sexual violence on women, such as rape
I understand that some of them might not have known about the abuse and assault allegations and might have just seen the DMs - but, even so, some of those DMs detailed his fantasies about enacting sexual violence on women, such as rape
in what world is it appropriate to say that you find Hammer’s DMs, those that detailed sexual and physical violence, ‘hot’? regardless of if these people didn’t know about the abuse allegations, anyone that’s read the DMs has seen that he told a woman he fantasised about rape
I think this could be part of a wider and necessary conversation about how willing people are to overlook evidence and allegations of abuse/assault/manipulation if the individual accused is deemed attractive.
I’m truly shocked by just how many people on here, including journalists and media personalities that I previously admired, happily described how much they enjoyed Hammer’s expression of desire to carry out sexual and physical violence against women.
I also think this plays into an even bigger conversation about the concerning normalisation of sexual violence towards women. How many people over the past few days were quick to jump at anyone who express discomfort in Hammer’s DMs and refer to them as ‘vanilla’?
How many women are being pressured into being choked/hit/etc during sex because there’s a conversation at the moment that implies if you don’t enjoy those things, you’re ‘boring’?
If you do enjoy those things, like humiliation during sex, then that’s okay because you’re consenting to it - but just how many women are finding themselves coerced into having extremely rough sex they don’t want to have for fear of being perceived as ‘boring’ if they don’t?
@Wecantconsentto do some really fantastic work with regards to tackling this subject and in how many women face violence and death at the hands of men that have convinced them then that everyone has rough sex and that anyone that doesn’t is simply ‘vanilla’.
Like I said before, there’s nothing wrong with rough sex if you consent to it - but I’m concerned about just how many women are being pressured by their sexual partners into engaging in deeply violent, aggressive, non-consensual acts because they don’t want to be ‘boring’!
