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Agreed! Not only should you be vetting each other before you even enter a dynamic. You should communicate and be able to (re-)negotiate the terms of the dynamic throughout the entire relationship. https://twitter.com/Master_Venture/status/1349098830013362177
You should also be able to renegotiate the specifics for any and/or all play/scenes as you deem necessary such that they conform to your limits/boundaries, as well as a framework of your choice (SSC, RACK, etc).
The whole point of play is mutual enjoyment, and the purpose of the negotiation is to ensure both the mutuality (both sides agree) and the enjoyment (both sides are informed and have the practice, technique and knowledge required).
Another reason it's important that renegotiation of terms as well as continuous communication is understood is that your heart may or may not yet know what you enjoy, and your brain can sometimes prematurely fill in the blanks. Sometimes out of fear, shame or preconceived ideas.
Finally, there is also a difference between telling a Dom about your kinks and wanting to experience them by their hands and at any given time. You having a kink is not immediate consent to said kink.
Your kink list should merely be seen as things you're willing to discuss, and your limits should be seen as things not open for discussion; perhaps for now, perhaps indefinitely.
