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So I saw a clip on Instagram of a woman who travelled far and her ādateā didnāt turn up.
I left a comment that said āitās okay to have a plan bā. So Iām being attacked for this in the comments by young me and hereās my take on the situation...
I left a comment that said āitās okay to have a plan bā. So Iām being attacked for this in the comments by young me and hereās my take on the situation...
The reason why itās okay to get to know more than one person at once is because you are dating with purpose. You know what you want. You are exploring different people. You are learning about them. And absolutely none of this means you have to have sex with them...
Before I generated a bond with my now bf, I was getting to know 2 other men. I liked them for different reasons. But my now bf caught my eye and my attention bcz what happens is when you know what you want and so does your potential, your time isnāt wasted. They either
Invest more time into you, they want to take up so much of your time you donāt have time for anyone else and the process gets easier bc you naturally gravitate towards them. Or, you discover enough about each other and itās not what you both want so you spend more time to with
The others that you are getting to know. Iām sorry but Iāve done that whole speaking to someone for 3 months and thinking they like me. āProving my loyaltyā to them and they donāt want me in the end and now Iām upset feeling like I went through a breakup bcz I emotionally
Invested so much into one person! I treated dating like a game. Iām there to win. But I only wanna play with winners. And I picked a winner bcz he chose me/vis-Ć -vis. Ppl suck at dating bcz they put their absolute all in and are left lost with nothing.
When a man would ask me āare you chatting to anyone elseā I would always say āno one has my attentionā. I wouldnāt say yes or no like that but I would be honest. If Iām getting to know someone, then the other person Im speaking to doesnāt have enough of my attention.
Itās the truth.
Men do that all the time! They never wanna answer your question to avoid giving you the full perspective on things if it could emotionally trigger you. Iām not saying act like them. But I am saying date smarter! Date for you. Not for them!
And to repeat, do not have sex! My girls! Your pussy us powerful! You do not need to sleep with a man to get him to like you. Men are simple. If a man wants you, he will do whatever it takes to get you. How far is he willing to go to have you before he sleeps with you?
I hear all the time once the girls sleep with a man his character towards her changes. I donāt care sexy he is. What his aspirations are. If he doesnāt wanna commit to me before or show me heās worthy then we donāt have any business talking anymore.
I made a video about it here. I was single for 6.5 years and took it serious 2 years before I got into a relationship. I didnāt fuck anyone new until I met my man. All men wanted to do was have sex with me and I didnāt get mad at that. They didnāt see the value in me and I
Canāt force them too. But Iām gonna have the choice where I want this to go and I wanna make sure you ladies understand we have choice too.
Men absolutely hate me giving advice about being single until you have commitment because they are insecure about women having choices. And that is why the initial tweet was about.
If you was committed to your partner before you guys spoke about commitment and that worked for you, hereās a cookie 
this tweet is not for you. Itās for the girls who are shamed for dating and donāt know how to get men to see their values.
this tweet is not for you. Itās for the girls who are shamed for dating and donāt know how to get men to see their values.
