So I saw a clip on Instagram of a woman who travelled far and her “date” didn’t turn up.
I left a comment that said “it’s okay to have a plan b”. So I’m being attacked for this in the comments by young me and here’s my take on the situation...

The reason why it’s okay to get to know more than one person at once is because you are dating with purpose. You know what you want. You are exploring different people. You are learning about them. And absolutely none of this means you have to have sex with them...

Before I generated a bond with my now bf, I was getting to know 2 other men. I liked them for different reasons. But my now bf caught my eye and my attention bcz what happens is when you know what you want and so does your potential, your time isn’t wasted. They either

Invest more time into you, they want to take up so much of your time you don’t have time for anyone else and the process gets easier bc you naturally gravitate towards them. Or, you discover enough about each other and it’s not what you both want so you spend more time to with

The others that you are getting to know. I’m sorry but I’ve done that whole speaking to someone for 3 months and thinking they like me. “Proving my loyalty” to them and they don’t want me in the end and now I’m upset feeling like I went through a breakup bcz I emotionally

Invested so much into one person! I treated dating like a game. I’m there to win. But I only wanna play with winners. And I picked a winner bcz he chose me/vis-à-vis. Ppl suck at dating bcz they put their absolute all in and are left lost with nothing.

When a man would ask me “are you chatting to anyone else” I would always say “no one has my attention”. I wouldn’t say yes or no like that but I would be honest. If I’m getting to know someone, then the other person Im speaking to doesn’t have enough of my attention.

It’s the truth.

Men do that all the time! They never wanna answer your question to avoid giving you the full perspective on things if it could emotionally trigger you. I’m not saying act like them. But I am saying date smarter! Date for you. Not for them!

And to repeat, do not have sex! My girls! Your pussy us powerful! You do not need to sleep with a man to get him to like you. Men are simple. If a man wants you, he will do whatever it takes to get you. How far is he willing to go to have you before he sleeps with you?

I hear all the time once the girls sleep with a man his character towards her changes. I don’t care sexy he is. What his aspirations are. If he doesn’t wanna commit to me before or show me he’s worthy then we don’t have any business talking anymore.

I made a video about it here. I was single for 6.5 years and took it serious 2 years before I got into a relationship. I didn’t fuck anyone new until I met my man. All men wanted to do was have sex with me and I didn’t get mad at that. They didn’t see the value in me and I

Can’t force them too. But I’m gonna have the choice where I want this to go and I wanna make sure you ladies understand we have choice too.

Men absolutely hate me giving advice about being single until you have commitment because they are insecure about women having choices. And that is why the initial tweet was about.

If you was committed to your partner before you guys spoke about commitment and that worked for you, here’s a cookie this tweet is not for you. It’s for the girls who are shamed for dating and don’t know how to get men to see their values.