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The thing that bothers me most about "go to therapy" as a dunk is that it causes a sort of conflation between people who completely suck ass and people who aren't bad but need help, which creates harm in ways that are difficult to describe. But I'll try.
Don't say "go to therapy" or "get some help" to people who are fundamentally shitty. They don't need therapy. They need a complete and absolute upheaval of their entire mindset. The fact that it's proliferated so much as a dunk means it hurts to hear it even in a genuine sense.
My closest friends really wanted me to get therapy after my previous bestie ghosted me. But because society made it a dunk, there was part of me that was taking it as "you think I suck and need a complete overhaul as a person." They didn't mean that at all.
They just knew how miserable I was in my own head, and that I had behaviors and thought patterns I needed to adjust for the betterment of myself and my relationships. One of my homies was so jazzed when he heard I finally started therapy. That doesn't happen when someone sucks.
So again, with emphasis: Stop telling shitty people to go to therapy, because you're unwittingly hurting the concept of therapy. Therapy is great. It helped me and those I love, and will continue to do so. But it's inaccessible enough as is without active stigmatization.
