The reactions to this tweet are weird. I don’t think Lala means you’re on your own like you’re expected to coparent. She’s talking about readjusting friendship to accommodate that someone is a mother now you can’t have the same expectations of them you did before. https://twitter.com/lalakaris/status/1349662065603047424

But I guess it’s also your choice if you wanna be friends with people with kids anymore. My friends and cousins had kids early and I made small adjustments like picking kid friendly restaurants incase they can’t find sitters.

I’ve also started a kiddies library in my house with coloring books, reading books and activity books so they can bring kids with them when I host. The kids leave the books with me so other kids also find joy with them.

My niece Tahlia even sees me more than her mom does because we have our own lives. My friends have never asked me to contribute to their kids lives financially, or anything but I’ve accommodated that our friendship dynamics have changed.

Impromptu hang outs aren’t possible because baby sitters, sometimes last minute cancellations will happen unless I’m willing to pick a place the kiddies can also come. Like it’s just small adjustments. But like I said it’s also your choice.

This December I had to get non mom friends cause Yhu I wanted to rock my mom friends understood.