no one owes you friendship or sticking around if you continue to stay in abusive or toxic relationships and I learned that from being in one myself.

Putting my friends through the constant emotional labor of feeling anxiety/fear/heartbreak/anger for me, watching me go back, watching me lash out on them & ignore their pleas—they did not deserve that & had every right to distance themselves. It is YOUR responsibility.

And you know what? They came back when all was said and done & I was finally ready to actually leave & left. They were there when I was going through court. They held me then. But not while I was refusing help. Y’all need to understand this.