Also: I know what it's like to know I need help, reach out for it, and be dismissed, or to have people who thought they were helping make matters worse.

If you're in a position where you know you need help and still can't get what you need, don't blame yourself. https://twitter.com/TheRaDR/status/1349350122128338948

Also: It’s not all or nothing. Sometimes it’s possible to get some of what you need, or crumbs of what you need, whether from official Help sources or elsewhere.

Also: Sometimes coping mechanisms are necessary long term or even permanently.

Sometimes the best goal is to make sure that your coping mechanisms are working for you and not harmful to you or to others.

You can have permanent psychological injuries *and* be capable of living in the world, doing things that matter, doing right by yourself and others, and having relationships.

Also: Sometimes the best kind of help is peer support and community.

Also: If you know that something is not working for you, no matter how emphatically others insist that it should, take what you know about yourself and your own experiences seriously.

Related to that: If you are struggling with addiction or a substance use disorder, it’s worth knowing that AA doesn’t work for everyone, there are other approaches, some of which are unambiguously secular, some of which involve approaches other than abstinence.

Also, if you are trans and call @TransLifeline, they won’t call the police on you.