Autistic adults may use coping mechanisms, tools, and behaviors to self-regulate that others interpret as “childish.”
Our stim toys, chewies, ear defenders, etc. are often mocked for being “age-inappropriate.”
Adults aren’t allowed to have harmless coping strategies?
Our stim toys, chewies, ear defenders, etc. are often mocked for being “age-inappropriate.”
Adults aren’t allowed to have harmless coping strategies?
It seems like, as people age, they are expected to “toughen up” and deal with difficult emotions in “adult” ways.
Drinking, drug use, reckless behavior, etc. are all emotional regulation strategies used by many adults.
But those strategies can be damaging.
Drinking, drug use, reckless behavior, etc. are all emotional regulation strategies used by many adults.
But those strategies can be damaging.
Often, what people really need when coping with trauma or overstimulation, is simply a quiet place that meets their sensory needs.
My own sensory corner, designed for me as an autistic person, has significantly helped my friends who are dealing with trauma and PTSD.
My own sensory corner, designed for me as an autistic person, has significantly helped my friends who are dealing with trauma and PTSD.
One of my friends who used that space with me after a traumatic event, remarked:
“Autistic people really have things figured out. Everyone should take notes from you all on coping strategies. Sometimes people just need to stim!”
I think she’s right.
“Autistic people really have things figured out. Everyone should take notes from you all on coping strategies. Sometimes people just need to stim!”
I think she’s right.
Often, the things that benefit autistic people can benefit everyone.
But even if our specific tools (chew necklaces, stim toys, ear protection, etc.) couldn’t benefit non-autistic people, that wouldn’t matter.
Autistic self-regulation techniques deserve respect.
But even if our specific tools (chew necklaces, stim toys, ear protection, etc.) couldn’t benefit non-autistic people, that wouldn’t matter.
Autistic self-regulation techniques deserve respect.
Who cares if my ear defenders and purple starfish chew necklace look “unusual”?
I use those tools to keep my senses balanced and my emotions stable. That’s a very mature thing to do.
It’s not childish at all. It’s sensible, and responsible. It’s a way to meet my needs.
I use those tools to keep my senses balanced and my emotions stable. That’s a very mature thing to do.
It’s not childish at all. It’s sensible, and responsible. It’s a way to meet my needs.
To any autistic person who has been made fun of for wearing ear defenders, using chewlery, stimming, etc., know this:
The people mocking you are the immature ones.
You’re meeting your needs by using tools that are helpful, not hurtful. That’s responsible, and honorable.
The people mocking you are the immature ones.
You’re meeting your needs by using tools that are helpful, not hurtful. That’s responsible, and honorable.