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Fam. An ex from SEVEN years ago recently sent an email. I have no responded, & won't. Here's why.
"X" is a hard worker, super smart, funny, gregarious, caring, & a great communicator. We had some wonderful times together.
Fam. An ex from SEVEN years ago recently sent an email. I have no responded, & won't. Here's why.
"X" is a hard worker, super smart, funny, gregarious, caring, & a great communicator. We had some wonderful times together.
"X" also has personal habits that fall far, far outside of what I am comfortable w/ in my life. While X never treated me poorly, I was put into situations by decisions X made that could have cost me my career. Could have caused MAJOR legal issues, even media coverage.
The breakup was wrought w/ anger, hurt, pain, & 'pay back' on X's part. X made threats, communication would not stop no matter how much I pleaded to leave me alone.
I feared X wld just show up where I live; I even called for police escorts home a few times due to this fear.
I feared X wld just show up where I live; I even called for police escorts home a few times due to this fear.
My best friend (who I love & trust implicitly) said "Perhaps X has been in rehab & has changed". This IS true. Perhaps X has.
But! (And this is the important part)... it doesn't matter. For me. My personal choice. My personal decisions.
It doesn't matter if X has changed.
But! (And this is the important part)... it doesn't matter. For me. My personal choice. My personal decisions.
It doesn't matter if X has changed.
It doesn't matter if X has been to rehab.
It doesn't matter if the past issues have been conquered.
It doesn't matter that X had all those WONDERFUL qualities.
Want to know why?
BECAUSE I LOVE MY LIFE.
I love my stability. Security. Peace. Balance. Tranquility.
It doesn't matter if the past issues have been conquered.
It doesn't matter that X had all those WONDERFUL qualities.
Want to know why?
BECAUSE I LOVE MY LIFE.
I love my stability. Security. Peace. Balance. Tranquility.
I would never wish ill upon X, even for what was done.
But there is an IRON clad belief that I am FIRM in my life as of right this very moment, a belief so strong there is NOT ONE 'WHAT IF'.
This is important Fam.
Years ago, perhaps I would have responded to the email.
But there is an IRON clad belief that I am FIRM in my life as of right this very moment, a belief so strong there is NOT ONE 'WHAT IF'.
This is important Fam.
Years ago, perhaps I would have responded to the email.
Years ago, perhaps I would have entertained those 'what ifs'... allowing them to drive me to contact, 'just to see'.
Nope. NO more.
There ARE no what ifs.
This is because there is nothing I need from any other human right now. I'm not seeking one single thing.
Nope. NO more.
There ARE no what ifs.
This is because there is nothing I need from any other human right now. I'm not seeking one single thing.
The place where I am now is in no way similar to 'years ago'.
While my decision to stay No Contact w/ this person is right for me, it is only my own decision.
My point however, is that patterns DO change w/ hard work. Stability, security, CONFIDENCE does return, w/ hard work.
While my decision to stay No Contact w/ this person is right for me, it is only my own decision.
My point however, is that patterns DO change w/ hard work. Stability, security, CONFIDENCE does return, w/ hard work.
Over time, w/ this hard work, the 'what ifs' in life diminish, if not disappear.
There is NOTHING to be gained from ANY contact w/ X whatsoever. Nothing.
Solid. Firm. Foundational security & STABILITY.
Work for it Fam, it is SO worth it.
There is NOTHING to be gained from ANY contact w/ X whatsoever. Nothing.
Solid. Firm. Foundational security & STABILITY.
Work for it Fam, it is SO worth it.
