Thread by @themonsterzo, To anyone who is confused or curious about my recent change in [...]

To anyone who is confused or curious about my recent change in pronouns and shift in gender identity, I'm gonna make a thread to better help you understand me and where I'm at right now :)

So! My experience using she/they/he and what it means & looks like for me.
A THREAD!

Just to start off, I want to make it very clear that this MY experience, MY thoughts, and how I (me!) am growing through it.

Genuine questions & curiosities are always welcome, love too duh, but if u have anything else to say, kindly fuck right on off thanks ;)

ALRIGHT! Jumping right into I want to explain a bit about my sexuality.

PLEASE NOTE! Gender and sexuality are two very, very different things. For the purpose of explaining my growth in my gender identity, which is new, I want to use my sexuality to help explain (bc that's old)

Thinking back to the way sexuality was introduced to me, I always saw it as a spectrum. I grew up identifying with one side, only to learn more and discover huh. Maybe I'm..not on that side of the spectrum? I started identifying with more of the middle. It was comfortable for me.

It wasn't until later that the word "queer" was introduced to me. Queer. Hmm I kind of liked that? It was vague, no one really knew what it meant exactly. That harsh line in the middle of the spectrum was looking less & less attractive to me. I wanted the freedom to shift & move

So, I started using queer to explain my sexuality. Because I noticed my sexuality shifted around a lot. Sometimes I question if I'm attracted to men. Other times I know I am. (Always women & enbys tho, love u all

) and having a label that didn't feel like a label, I liked that.

I started to use the freedom of the spectrum to be able to shift and slide around it. I didn't want to be trapped in a box and pushed one way or another, I wanted to drift around as I please. Queer felt like a certain type of freedom to me and I loved it. :)

As many LGBTQ+ babies know, once we finally, FINALLY get comfortable with our sexuality enough to embrace it and love it, the long feared ~GENDER~ approaches and decides to just absolutely fuck everything up and throw off every piece of growth you ever thought you had

And that's what happened to me *sigh*

And I started thinking about that spectrum in regards to gender too. While I do feel like a woman, I feel more than that too. It's not that I want to abandon my womanhood, I am SO PROUD OF THAT SHIT (

). It's moreso I want to expand it :)

I've started playing with the idea of fluidity and what that means to me. I feel a lot of masculine & feminine energy inside of myself but it's more than that too. Sometimes it's neither energy, other times it's both at once. I decided to sit & think about what that means to me.

And YOU GUESSED IT! I decided, why not E V E R Y T H I N G >:) like the greedy bitch I am I wanted it ALL!

ok kidding. But! I did want to expand my idea of gender and rather than one side of the spectrum, I wanted to use the whole damn thing. Masc, femme, neither, both. ALL!

And that's when I remembered "queer". Can the freedom I allowed my sexuality also be given to my gender? Is that possible? Is that allowed? Is the alphabet mafia about to run up on me?!!

BUT ALAS! all hope was restored when I found the most beautiful word. "genderqueer"

And that's where I am now :) like I said, I view the two as a spectrum so I'm allowing myself that grace to be able to mold & shift over time. But right here, right now, this is where I want to be.

And now we are on to the next part!
"How do I avoid misgendering you?"

I know a lot of people are worried & confused about misgendering me, you are so sweet ILYSM. Here's how I feel!

HONESTLY it's pretty hard bc I am open to almost everything! I still feel v connected w my womanhood so she/her and many feminine names/words are still cool w me :)

And it's BECAUSE I grew up socialised as a woman that I would so love it if you would help me experiment with things outside of that!! I'm leaning a lot more towards gender neutral language and I get an instant rush of serotonin when they/them & gender neutral language is used

In terms of the spectrum, I feel most connected with the middle of it. Neither and both. Of course I'm going to play around with the more feminine and more masculine sides, but I understand this is a learning process for everyone and we can grow as we go

HOWEVER. there is some shit I really do not like so I'll break it down. That being said, if anything is being said as a compliment to me, misgendering or not, I am still grateful for your sweetness. Don't freak out, let's learn together ok?

Here's the breakdown!!

GOOD

: ANY ego stroke, hot girl, pretty boy, any play off of the word bitch (bad, sad, THAT), babygirl, daddy, royalty, king, handsome

BAD

: queen, princess, female (shit is so disrespectful just call me a woman), male (lmfao don't lump me w them) & any belittling shit stfu

I identify more as a person than a woman but I'm still going to pull from all my experiences as a woman! When it comes to those hard gendered lines like man/woman, I prefer gender neutral but I (me!) may still refer to myself as a woman from time to time. Heads up!

IN CONCLUSION:

Safe bet will always be gender neutral but I still like pet names & sayings that have gendered phrases. I'm growing through this w each day & I'd love if you grew w me too :)

And YES! if you type me a sentence using all three dif pronouns I will fall in luv

If you have any questions/confusions/curiosities please hit me up! DMs always open

I love you all SO MUCH! Thank you for loving me too. Stay safe & healthy out there, sending my love always

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