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I’d been a bit uneasy for a few years probably. I was always a trans activist but it was before “trans women are literal actual women” stated to take hold. https://twitter.com/labelfreebrands/status/1349102837817507841
After stonewall added the T, and the “TWAW” mantra started, I still thought they didn’t really mean it. In a woke online political discussion group I belonged to, I tentatively expressed opinions like TW could use women’s toilets but ...
Sports ? Intimate care? Refuges? No of course not. They could be seen socially as women & toilets were no big deal, but they were still biological males.
I was “re educated”. Trans women should be allowed in women’s professional sports. Women only medical services. Refuges. I didn’t agree , but I pretended to as I was clearly so evil.
And at this point I still thought transwomen were fully “transitioned” transexuals. I put it out of my head. I just wouldn’t think about it.
I’d been aware of the get the L out protest at pride. I wasn’t really sure what at happened. But of course I agreed these women were bigoted “TERFs”
I’d been aware of the prefix “cis” for longer than most I think. I used to agree I was cis as I wasn’t trans. They were the only 2 options and it was clear cis was akin to straight. Just meant I hadn’t transitioned to the opposite sex.
Then I started noticed “LGBTQ” online groups I’d belonged to, there started to be a lot of talk of “cis gays”, “cis white gays”, and how they were awful. Usually from people calling themselves “pan” & “NB”
NB was a new one for me. These people actually thought they weren’t men or women. This didn’t seem anything to do with physical distress over their bodies. It all seemed like it was to do with sexist stereotypes. I was starting to get really bothered.
On an online discussion forum I belonged to, I started talking to a transwoman I liked & respected, I thought, about this NB stuff. He (sorry can’t say she anymore) said actually for him disphoria was a small part of why he is trans.
That he wanted to live and be seen as a woman in society, have a woman’s place etc. The glass shattered in my brain for not the last time. I suddenly realised how so much of trans ideology was rooted in sexism rather than physical dysphoria.
He said he still had his penis, & wouldn’t be getting rid of it, but it didn’t make him less of a woman. I also found out he identified as lesbian. I’d assumed he, like all transwomen clearly, was attracted to men.
Another transwoman I was friendly with had started off uneasy. Said he never used women’s spaces until after he’d started transitioning, & only things like changing rooms after bottom surgery. He was what you would call a “classic” HSTS I know now.
He got re-educated. I don’t know if he believed it but a few days of intense internet arguing he agreed all men should access women’s spaces if they “felt” like women or “feminine nom binary”.
Then Magdalen Berns died. I’d never heard of her. I saw some people on social media saying things like “if you mourn her death you are scum”. I didn’t think more of it. I thought she was some mass murderer or terrorist.
I stopped posting in the lgbtq online groups I’d belonged to. They now seemed completely infested with anime obsessed non binaries who called me a genital fetishist. I’d started to reject the label cis as it no longer meant “not transitioned” but “aligns with sexist stereotypes”
I joined another social group which was focused around outdoor activities for gay men in my local area, sport, games etc. Most of the people seemed much more normal & not obsessed with “lgbtq” issues.
A few Transmen joined & they made me feel really uncomfortable. Complaining about “cis” gay men. Complaining about genital preferences. One of them “passed” well. The others less so.
I was adamant I wouldn’t pretend I would have sex with a female bodied person even if she’d taken testosterone & grown a beard. I started to realise the homophobia in trans ideology. Other gay men pretended they would. Yeah right. I know how much you love cock Ben, no chance.
It snowballed. Jk Rowling supported someone called Maya Forstater. Everyone was angry she was a vile TERF. I looked into it. Seemed perfectly reasonable? Then I discovered “Posie Parker”. And that’s when my TERFdom really began.... TBC
