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The more I talk to men, the more I realize the elder men & their lil friends have failed to tell & teach the younger men that the price of dealing with women is the price. Period. Give her what she wants. If you can’t — do better or move along. It’s simple.
That being said, I find myself coaching my male associates and asking them 1) why they’re so cheap 2) why they’re averse to spending money, being generous or doing nice things. My CLOSE male friends aren’t cheap btw. They know the deal and take care of their wives & girlfriends.
I stay perplexed. I find myself often just saying “give the woman what she wants.” Also, I’m that girlfriend who will tell your man or husband to spend money, empty his pockets and give you want you want. I don’t care. I’m honest about it though.
Ok. I’ll leave y’all to fight amongst yourselves. I have a zoom meeting. Love you.
Also, for those who’ll say “well she makes more, she doesn’t need anything...” Fam, EVERY woman I know needs something. Time, attention, wants and needs nice things, help her figure some shit out, fix some shit. Do something. Make yourselves useful. Make her life better.
If you’re going to say men have needs. Fine. Yes. Absolutely. I acknowledge this item. Truly. However, most of the women I know invest in their significant others, please, save the argument. We tend to over-invest but that’s from my experience & convos.
But hey... just wanted to toss this out there. Per the convos I’ve had with some brothers and the things I hearing I just ... I want y’all to be happy, have fulfilling relationships. I needed to acknowledge there’s work to be done and investment required.
You can’t do the bare minimum and expect to win and maintain worthwhile people. Not happening. This only works at your job. Not in real life. Especially not now in the middle of all of what’s going on.
That being said, in the middle of the current state of the world + Black? Fam it’s triple double mayhem /chaos/danger/racism/disease and trouble & you’re playing games,being cheap, mean with little effort. So you want the most doing the least? Oh nah. Make it make sense. Waiting.
Ok. Anyway. This is the hill I’m on. I have to get back to the white man’s paperwork at this time.
