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lord fucking above the belle delphine shit has crossed the line. I've always kinda respected her hustle and everything but her normalising DANGEROUS bdsm practices is so fucked. if you're gonna practice CNC play it must be done so with so much planning, care and C O N S E N T
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the clue is in the name. CONSENSUAL non consent play. play like this is volatile, it requires emotional strength and shouldn't be taken lightly by ANYBODY. and it shouldn't be used as a cute little photo set theme for onlyfans ffs.
the clue is in the name. CONSENSUAL non consent play. play like this is volatile, it requires emotional strength and shouldn't be taken lightly by ANYBODY. and it shouldn't be used as a cute little photo set theme for onlyfans ffs.
if you're gonna use it as a photoset theme, provide CONTEXT, put WARNINGS on your posts, explain that everyone in the shoot was consenting and that cnc play shouldn't be taken lightly. cos anyone that does take it lightly just wants to blur the lines between rape & consensual sex
as someone who practices bdsm its just gross. anyone with a brain in kink would never throw things as volatile as CNC play around like that.
if she had provided context, a warning, a disclaimer ie - everyone in this shoot was a consenting adult and play like this should never be taken lightly, I would've had zero issue. aside from the fact that her fanbase is full of young people, which makes this even more fucked
kinky practices have bled into the mainstream for quite some time (we can thank 50 shades for that..) and I could write a motherfucking essay about this, how normalised dangerous bdsm acts are becoming (eg. asphyxiation play) and how teenagers are introduced to such acts--
--so young, thinking that its normal, thinking that it's something that you SHOULD be into and if you're not you're weird. it's not okay. you should only practice these things post extensive research, ideally with someone experienced, and it should all come with the disclaimer--
that if you're not into that stuff IT IS OKAY. IT IS NORMAL. off the back of this, men are expecting women to be kinkier now, and there's a lot to be said about more young women being pushed into dangerous acts by men and men thinking that it's okay and normal to do so.
whilst it's okay to be kinky and be into whatever you're into, it's fun to explore and find new sexual things to do. it's also okay not to be. the safe environment to explore kinks is just as important as a safe environment to only be vanilla, or even not want to have sex at all
whilst that environment where people feel safe to explore their kinks becoming more mainstream can be good, it's often exploited by abusers to cause harm to someone. harm can even come about accidentally in bdsm if not enough research is done, care taken etc etc.
and this is basically the culture I feel belle delphine is feeding into. the culture of young women who feel they should be into the extreme to impress men, and a culture of men who will throw these practices around without any care, like they're any other sexual act.
of course those men/women roles can be reversed/switched/apply to anyone but I'm speaking in general here. it feeds into misogyny and rape culture for sure.
I have so much more I could say about this lmao it's something I'm extremely passionate about but i'll end the tedtalk here thanku xxxx
this has actively pissed me off LMAO so much so I'm consistently outing my sexual preferences on the tl but oh well. y'all been knew by now. let's just say actual practicing kinksters would NEVER in a million years engage in cnc without meticulous safety planning. the end.
it's worth saying too that I have been triggered by sexual practices gone wrong/extreme shit without effective aftercare and it is, no shadow of a doubt, psychologically damaging. everyone's different but bad experiences have such a profound effect and that's why I get fucked off
