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Single women in your mid-to-late 30s and beyond:
How do you process the insidious and mounting grief around the realization you will likely never have biological children?
No one ever seems to talk about this but it's a very real thing.
How do you process the insidious and mounting grief around the realization you will likely never have biological children?
No one ever seems to talk about this but it's a very real thing.
Frankly, I've never been 100% sure I wanted kids, but now the fact the option is close to being taken away from me, I find myself with inexplicable grief.
And I know there are options like egg freezing (almost went through with it, but outcomes aren't so great), having a child without a partner, and of course adoption, but there's something about the loss of the biological ability that is very real and haunting.
to be clear, I'm not looking for sympathy or pity! I know I can have a very fulfilling life without biological children. But this grief has really caught me off-guard.
Not quite sure what I'm looking for, but maybe just that I'm not alone in it.
Not quite sure what I'm looking for, but maybe just that I'm not alone in it.
I should also add that this doesn’t have to be limited to single women or just women even. I’m learning this is a very real thing for men as well, though different (for obvious reasons). I welcome all voices to the conversation and I appreciate all the thoughtful responses!
This thread has actually helped me process SO much. It's a weird thing to grieve the potential loss of an opportunity that you weren't even sure you wanted in the first place.
And I've realized this grief isn't so much about me wanting a child, as I'm still not sure about that.
And I've realized this grief isn't so much about me wanting a child, as I'm still not sure about that.
If anything, I feel like I'm grieving the loss of the ability to give and receive love, which has just been compounded by the pandemic, isolation, and ill-timed heartbreak. I have a lot of love to give in this world, but I realize there are many ways to meet that need
I also want to acknowledge that not EVERY woman experiences this grief or process. I completely celebrate (as should society) people who chose to not have children.
I'm just speaking from my own experience as a women who has said "I'm not sure about kids " her entire life
I'm just speaking from my own experience as a women who has said "I'm not sure about kids " her entire life
