Men get to freely date whomever they want to with no regard to how many people they see or even if they know each other and it’s like...nothing.

I’ve had men ask about me at events that they came to with other women and it was like “who cares?” they are not usually judged by how many women they date or how many sexual partners they’ve had. They will still be seen as a prize to whichever woman finally “gets” to have them

I remember when things ended with my ex after I moved to Tennessee. I was worried I’d meet someone who knew him, was in his frat (undergrad or grad) or someone who went to school with him or worked where he worked. Men do not care! They will not be seen as “passed around”

When I was in college I saw women get called hoes for dating someone in the same frat or same athletic team but men could date line sisters or women in the same social circle and whoever got the ring was like “the winner!”....It’s really sad.

So when I say I don’t want to say with the patriarchy that comes with dating, this is in part what I’m talking about. The double standards are ridiculous.

A lot of men will have you out here thinking if you just “play by the rules” you will be rewarded with a husband, meanwhile they making the rules, breaking the rules and you will still often have to continue to play the game even during marriage.