If anyone is giving sex/relationship advice & it includes any sort of pop-psychology, tricking the person, “getting into their head,” etc ignore that foolishness
Keep that manipulative pick-up artist bs. It never works & it teaches you to treat love & ppl like marks in a scam
Keep that manipulative pick-up artist bs. It never works & it teaches you to treat love & ppl like marks in a scam
The secret is & has ALWAYS been self-awareness, clear communication, AND boundaries
Figure out what you want, what you can’t live without, what you need in relationships. And then look for those things in people w/o exceptions. If they don’t have it, don’t make exceptions
Figure out what you want, what you can’t live without, what you need in relationships. And then look for those things in people w/o exceptions. If they don’t have it, don’t make exceptions
You don’t need to get into anyone’s head if you are having a clear conversation.
Ask them what they want & are looking for. If they are always asking what you want & never offering what they want, that’s a red flag. They are trying to trick you by temporarily mirroring you.
Ask them what they want & are looking for. If they are always asking what you want & never offering what they want, that’s a red flag. They are trying to trick you by temporarily mirroring you.
People, esp cis men, can lie to make it seem like they are what you need
Once you realize they are a whole lie, then it’s time to tap into your social supports and figure out how to safely leave
Once you realize they are a whole lie, then it’s time to tap into your social supports and figure out how to safely leave
When I am looking to date, it’s very simple
What are you looking for? Ok. Here’s what I’m looking for
If it doesn’t match, I move on
If the conversation feels like pulling teeth, if they don’t know what they want, if I get the sense they are mirroring me to trick me, I move on
What are you looking for? Ok. Here’s what I’m looking for
If it doesn’t match, I move on
If the conversation feels like pulling teeth, if they don’t know what they want, if I get the sense they are mirroring me to trick me, I move on
There’s no secret trick. Finding the right people (romantic, platonic, professional, etc) for your life takes work. Vetting takes work. But the rewards/harvest is so fucking sweet.
Anyone telling you there’s a cheat is either scamming or is clueless themselves https://twitter.com/queeringpsych/status/1076888988806463488
Anyone telling you there’s a cheat is either scamming or is clueless themselves https://twitter.com/queeringpsych/status/1076888988806463488