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Here is one of the conversations that should have taken place in schools Thursday. It is common for people to form groups or cliques. When we do, there is a phenomenon called in-group out-group where people outside of the group are perceived negatively.
When the in-group polarizes to an extreme level, communication breaks down. In a healthy relationship, feedback is a sign of trust and respect. But in a polarized in-group, feedback from an outsider creates defensiveness. “Of course, YOU would say that, you’re a ....!”
Feedback is maligned by talking points that prevent thinking and reflection.
The solutions to toxic in-groups are to find ways to establish communication. This often comes about via consequences for actions, but there are better ways if the polarization is limited.
The solutions to toxic in-groups are to find ways to establish communication. This often comes about via consequences for actions, but there are better ways if the polarization is limited.
Kindness is not helpful at addressing the problem.
Instead, many teachers were fearful of having conversations. The false and reductive talking point that teachers indoctrinate children prevented them from providing guidance to their students out of a fear of retribution from a minority of parents and administrators.
The message sent was that everyone should be silent. Silence reinforces the toxic group dynamic. A push for silence about politics is indeed political.
There are important backdrops to this conversation. A political push to alter history standards that ignore critical elements of history. Racism, patriarchy, and sexism perpetuate these toxic groups. It is critical that our discussions highlight the problems and find solutions.
Many students expressed hopelessness and they needed adult guidance and direction. Shame on those who worked against them receiving that. If you’re a parent, please demand that your student gets the education they deserve.
